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Reilyn J. Hardy  Sometimes I write books, other times I’m sharing my unwanted opinions and advice on Quora 📚 Height: 5’6” | ↓ 114 lbs 🦒 49 lbs left ☺️

#witchcasketgiveaway 💀🕯🔮

I did a thing! Err. I did two things! 💉 #piercings #facialpiercings 🤷🏻‍♀️

‘Women have more important things to be than just pretty.’ 🌵


Has anyone been offended but like, in the best way possible? Lol. Does that even make sense? Let me explain. I spent some time on here a while back saying how I was in no way happier now than I was before. While that’s true, that doesn’t inherently mean I’m not happy with who I am as a person. Emotions are a fickle thing, and I don’t think people can be judged based on the level of happiness you perceive. I’ve grown so much over the last 6-7 months. I’m generally the same person, but I’ve improved.
So anyway, I was having a conversation with someone and I was told that I don’t appear to be happy with myself. Instead of agreeing like I usually would’ve, (because depression is a bitch and I usually absorb the negative shit people say about me like a fucking sponge) I was offended. I mean, excuse me? How dare you? You don’t know me. You don’t know what I’ve worked for. You don’t know what I’ve gone through. I mean, yeah I do have moments where I’m depressed as fuck and don’t want to get out of my bed, but that doesn’t mean I’m not happy with who I’ve become. I. Have. Depression. These moments come and go! So I’m offended, right, and me being me, I had to explain why he was wrong about me. Can I understand how he reached that conclusion? Sure, and I told him that, and that he’s entitled to his own opinion of course.

But after that, I realized, I don’t give a shit what other people think. I don’t give a shit if someone doesn’t think I’m happy with myself. I don’t care. I’ve got NOTHING to prove to anyone and I shouldn’t have to convince anyone of anything. I’m not a happy person, but that doesn’t mean I can’t be a positive or opportunistic person. That doesn’t mean I’m not happy with all of the progress I’ve made. That doesn’t mean I’m not happy with myself. *I’m positive he didn’t mean to offend me (besides, we can’t control how people interpret and react to what we say) and he’s a nice guy but truthfully I’m glad he did because he reminded me of something important.* ‘You either like me or you don’t. It took me 20-something years to learn how to love myself, and I don’t have that kinda time to convince anyone else.’ 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think I need my next tattoo to be a semi-colon. Deeper meaning 😉❤️ if you’ve been following me for a while, you probably get it. ☺️ #lifestylechanges #lifestylechoice #semicolontattoo #motivation

I received a message from someone fairly recently, calling me perfect. While messages like that can be nice, they also make me incredibly sad. Despite me being open and honest about my journey, you’re still only getting a very small fraction, and you’re only getting what I choose to reveal.
When you only know me through social media, you’re seeing a very filtered and distorted version of my life. I don’t look like this 99% of the time. I hate putting on makeup and I hate wasting my money on it. But I can’t deny that it looks nice in pictures. In fact, you may even notice I’m wearing the same clothes in certain pictures because they were taken on the same day lmao (a day I chose to actually put effort in). It’s like an iceberg meme and you’re only seeing the tip. I’m not perfect and I’m not trying to be. I just want to continue to progress and grow. I just want to be better than I was. I just hope to inspire people and motivate others to make a change in their lifestyles. I’m sorry if I made anyone feel bad. It wasn’t my intention.

This week has been a weird week and I’m so glad it’s Friday. Happy Friday the 13th! And apparently international kissing day or something? I don’t know. Kiss your loved ones if you want. But don’t force anyone to kiss you okay? Be respectful of the personal space of others. 😊

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About 80% of the compliments I receive now are about my appearance and as much as I am thankful people are recognizing my efforts in taking care of myself, those compliments aren’t always about my hard work and effort. In all honesty, that sucks. It makes me feel pretty shitty. I get reduced to my appearance. At least when I was obese, I knew the people who I was around, liked me for me. Now I don’t know anything anymore, lol.

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