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Saloni Chopra  Actor. Traveler. Writer. Feminist af. Work: teamchopra@gmail.com 📍Bombay

I remember being the girl that rushed to get her upper lip and eye brows done at the first sight of hair. ‘I can’t go out looking like that!’ I remember never wanting to hold a boys hand, because I’d always been told my hands were so dry, like a man’s hands. ‘Do you wash a lot of dishes?’... I’d never stepped into a kitchen. And then foolishly forgiving a boy’s bad behavior as ‘but look at my hands, I have flaws too, we all do’ - oh how I wish I could go back and tell little Saloni that these were never flaws. These would one day define me. I remember always being rejected for Jewelry ads because... well, girls are supposed to have pretty hands.
I remember the obsession with the neatly shaped brows, not a hair out of place - Pretty. I remember that unlike other girls, my upper lip was always thicker, and I hated it. I remember trying so hard, to look like a girl - forgetting that all along, I was one.
I don’t miss it the tiniest bit. How can anyone miss feeling so insecure that you cannot spend a night out with your friends without going to a parlor?
People still ask, friends still joke about the last time I ‘shaped my brows’ and mum will still try to pluck them out with all her love, the only thing that’s changed is how empowered I feel, knowing that accepting myself the way I am will not make me any less of a woman.
I am a woman.
I’m a woman of colour, with fluctuating hormones and skin that ages. Gracefully. I’m a woman, regardless of how my fingers wrinkle and the shape my eyebrows take. Women aren’t supposed to be beautiful in all the different ways of perfection - you don’t owe it to anyone to be pretty. You owe love - and lots and lots of it, to yourself. ✨
#mywomen #selflove #beyou #breakingstereotypes #beautyisskindeep #beauty #loveyourself #facialhair #love #women #girls

Thank you for being part of the takeover yesterday on the @officialhumansofbombay page! While I talked about everything that defines me, I think you should know that had I woken up next to this loser, my first story would’ve consisted of the things I’m grateful for in life... starting with him.
Lots of you ask me how we make the distance work? Well, firstly, we try to meet every 2 months & we set realistic goals that work for both of us. It took us some time to realize that the only rules that matter are the ones we set - & most importantly, remember, that trying to make distance work - is about expressing your gratitude & love towards each other... every. single. day. Hell, do it 5 times a day if you need to. But remind them why you’re there. Remind them that you love them. Be corny. Be honest. Be genuine. Be kind. But also fight - because it’s the fights that teach you how long the other person is willing to stay to work things out... it’s the fights that truly bring you closer. Try to remember that if you’re ‘us’ when you’re happy, then you’re ‘us’ when you’re fighting too. It’s us against the problem, not against each other. Couples tend to forget that... they suddenly become ‘you’ & ‘me’ only when they fight. To be honest, Rah & I are still learning. Some days are harder than the others but it’s been a year & no matter what the argument, we never go to bed without saying I love you. Talk, about everything. Remember, that love is a lot of work - it’s not always sunshine & roses.. & even if it is, well the sun sets & the roses die... But just like the things you’re most passionate about in life, nothing feels like hard work if it’s what you really want. Remember, to choose each other, every day. Be best friends. Be loyal. Be forgiving. Wear matching T-Shirts! Be the sort of person that you’re looking for yourself. Then, love some more. :)
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Told you you’re getting a Rah overdose didn’t I! .
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Tag someone you love ❤️ #matchingtshirts #maldives #traveldiaries #love #longdistancerelationship #ocean #happinessishere #writersofig #relationships #boyfriendsofinstagram

☀️ ☀️ ☀️ @sunaquavilureef

Hi kids!
Super excited to tell you that I’m going to be doing a take over on the @officialhumansofbombay page all day tomorrow so if you’re not already following them do it now! Don’t forget to tune in and talk to me :)
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Also, what would you like me to talk about? Leave a comment with your suggestion of topics for tomorrow! I’m really really excited, but also nervous because I’ve never done a take over and I’m personally a huge fan of their work so, nervous energies kicking in!
Xo
#humansofbombay #instagramtakeover #bombay #mumbai #letstalk #breakingstereotypes #india
Photo by @photowalktd

I hope this makes your day too 😂 😂 😂
Not only did I just make you laugh, but I’m also about to give you upto 60% OFF on two of the best properties in Maldives. Coming soon!

#maldives #thisgirlisonfire #waterchild #slowmotion #ocean #love #traveldiaries @thesunsiyamirufushi @poornaseneviratne

I’m really proud of, and grateful for the men in my life @schoujar and @rahulb90 - for speaking up when required, for standing up for what’s right. And I’m also so, so proud of the rest of you for being such wonderful human beings that know the difference between equality and justice. The discussion today that I witnessed on my profile, is exactly WHY I’m happy to dedicate the rest of my life talking about women, because you guys... make me realize that it’s not a waste.
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Next time someone asks you about feminism and what’s wrong with this world - here’s all you need to know. I hope these comments help you make your argument. It’s a shame that everyone’s comments got deleted when that person decided to delete their Instagram, his loss, because you guys had some wonderful points!
Keep spreading your knowledge and creating awareness - there’s nothing wrong with believing that you can change the world - because you can! :) #equality #feminism #equity #whyineedfeminism #women #educate #awareness #educateindia #india #bethechange #inspired #gratitude

Good morning.
I hope you learn to spend some time understanding and loving your body every now and then... I hope you learn to love someone, that loves you back in all the ways you deserve to be loved. All the years we spend growing up and learning from our mistakes, we forget to demand for a relationship that’s good enough. ‘We accept the love we think we deserve’ - I’m constantly overwhelmed by how lucky I feel around this man, and every moment we get to spend talking, stretching, arguing, laughing together
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This ones from the very first time he helped me stretch, and because he’s @rahulb90 and he’s ridiculously cute and inquisitive, he joined me and tried some stretching and yoga with me. It was never ‘yeah you go do your yoga’... instead it’s ‘if you love it so much, I want to learn what’s so good about it too so we can grow together’ - find that love for yourself... regardless of what you do in your life, don’t settle in for love any lesser than that. I hadn’t been doing yoga for almost a month and my body felt so stiff and miserable... but my heart, my heart felt like it would implode with happiness
@sunaquavilureef .
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Suzie’s Song by @mimigilbert_ - one of the most beautiful voices I’ve ever heard, even live. You can download her music on iTunes.
#maldives #traveldiaries #yoga #stretching #yogaeverydamnday #knowyourbody #selflove #loveyourself #ocean #water #waterchild #bluewater #love #favouriteperson

Mine!
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Who’s ready for some Rah overdose?
#traveldiaries #love

#Part7

I am not scared of the fact that being a girl in my industry, I get told all the time that nobody wants to work with an actress who is so opinionated, I should go be an activist, ‘you’re too smart to be an actress’ - like actresses are supposed to be dumb? I should shut up and smile and take a selfie.
Is details about my designer outfit the only important question people want to ask me?
Wear make up more frequently… because while exposing my body is indecency, caking my face with false perfection to be more desired is the new decent.
The things you think are done for publicity and attention, often actually make me lose out on work because it’s only okay for me to show my breasts when my mouth is shut and my legs are open so I can be objectified without causing them a hassle.
After all, nobody wants to wank off to a girl that’s got so much to say.
I am not scared to acknowledge that far too many people have asked me to get a boob job and a nose job to become an actor — because the irony is, we encourage women to change themselves in order to be desirable, and then we slut-shame them and dissect their insecurities for not being comfortable in their own body.
*Slow clap*
I am not scared to admit that even as I write this, there are still things and memories I am not ready to share with you, because it’s okay to accept that sometimes… you can be scared.
But I am not scared to fight for what I believe in.
And while I hope that my truth helps you accept your own reality, I also know that you, and only you, can set yourself free from your own fears.
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Thank you for being a part of this series with me. I love you guys.
#scarednomore #bethechange #writersofig #writersofinstagram #bollywood #women #actorslife #breakingstereotypes #actress #india #educate #awareness #blackandwhite #womenoftheworld #females #equality

#Part6

I am not scared to admit that I never want to give birth to a child. Never. I want to adopt — and that is what my maternal instinct is. I have never felt the urge to grow a human inside me and that is entirely my choice. I may never ‘change my mind with age’. It is my body. If I were to be put in the unfortunate situation to abort it — I should have every damn right to. If you can sit and tell me that i’m killing a life, I’m going to remind you about the children that are already alive and dying every single day without a family to belong to and you may give more importance to a fetus with a heart beat that will one day have your nose and his eyes and I respect your choice, but I cannot argue against loving a child that is already alive, with just as much of a beating heart if not more — and no one to call family. That’s going to be my child and I’m going to love it more than anything in this world. Conceiving doesn’t make you a parent, and if I can respect you and celebrate your decisions with you, you should learn to respect me and my decisions equally.

What we do with our bodies should be our decision without being judged and morally policed by society. Abortions should not be illegal. Women should not be made felt like murderers for it - and we as a society should have equal responsibility for the kids that are growing up without a family because that torture, is worse than murder. Loving something just because it came out of your womb doesn’t automatically make you a good person.
I am not scared to tell you that this is going to be a really tough journey where you have to keep fighting for your rights - every day.
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Complete blog link in my bio
#scarednomore #writersofig #writersofinstagram #women #womenoftheworld #womenempowerment #female #girls #femalebody #abortion #adoption #adoptachild #love #foodforthought #educate #awareness #bethechange #india #motherhood
@amitagarwalphotography

#Part5

I am not scared to fight for the right to put my mother’s name on all my legal documents instead of my father’s. She raised me, and I will owe this to her for the rest of my life.

I refuse to accept that our legal documents everywhere ask for the father’s name and leave no space for the woman that gave birth and raised me.

I am not scared to tell you that we live in such a fucked up society that half the boys I liked said their parents wouldn’t approve of me because I have divorced parents, or because I wear shorts — I’m not the first girl that it’s happened to — it’s them that should be a shame to society, not you.

I am not scared to admit that though I love my family to bits and pieces, and they’re my pillars of strength — we still fight about my posts regularly. It’s not always as easy as it looks. I am not always receiving messages being told how proud they all are of me. On some days there are tears and complaints and an entire afternoon spent justifying why I do what I do. Other days, we don’t talk to each other. There’s disappointment and there’s hurt — as there is in any family. My mother isn’t always a proud mother when she see’s me in a bra and sometimes she has to take shit from relatives that have never been of any good except for creating chaos and chatter from the outside. Other days, what I stand for goes against what she believes in and how she was raised — and that’s OK.

I need you to understand that it’s never going to be perfect. If it were that easy, then I wouldnt need to fight for it, would I?
I am grateful that in my little family, we don’t ever talk about disowning each other or forcing our views on one another. We don’t end relationships. We argue, and we fight. We often take time off. Sometimes we can be hurtful too… but in the end, regardless of what I do with my life, I know my mother will fight for my right till her last breath — because that… is what Love is. Love is not imposing on each other. Love isn’t always agreeing either, Love is when you can disagree with the people you care about and still fight for their freedom of speech
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#mothersday #women #females #family #love #scarednomore #mother #bethechange

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