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Bianca Sparacino  Creative Director @thoughtcatalog NYC Toronto based 🍒 My new book is available down below. 🔻

Little reminders ✨

It will come. 💛

I was riffing through a few of the poems I wanted to read at my workshop on Sunday in NYC, and I thought I'd share them with you here, too. For those of you asking, there are still a few early access tickets left, and you can find all of the information in the highlight "08.12." I created this workshop because I believe that the purest, most authentic, kind of writing can't be taught, but rather it comes from a place of getting out of your head and into your heart. I believe that every single human being has the capacity to write beautiful words, and that the tools already exist within us. Sometimes, it is just a matter of listening to what bubbles over within us when we are inspired and vulnerable and open in the world. That is what I want to facilitate with this workshop. That is what I wish I had in the early years of my writing journey - a place to feel, a place to dive into myself, and to connect with others who also had soft hearts, and I now have the ability to gift that to you. I'm so lucky to have the opportunity to facilitate that beyond this screen, and I can't wait to bring it to all of you in the future. 💛

A little reminder from my second book, The Strength In Our Scars, which is now officially available for preorder through the link in my bio. So excited to share this piece of my heart with you. 💛

✨ Thank you + 100k giveaway ✨This little community just hit 100k! Thank you for journeying with me, thank you for your belief and your support, and thank you for showing me just how many soft souls are in this world. This community is such a testament to the fact that being tender and sensitive and feeling everything so deeply is not something that makes you alone, but rather, something that unites you with so many others. Thank you for encouraging me to share my heart, always. I am truly humbled by every single one of you. If you have someone in your life who is a light, if you know someone who inspires your soul and encourages you to be exactly who you are, tag them down below and speak that love into the world. I'll send 5 of you a copy of my first book. Thank you, thank you, thank you. From the bottom of my heart. 💛

There are going to be days where your bones feel heavy under the weight of all the love you hold within yourself, and this will be a good thing. You will be thankful for your ability to feel, for your ability to give to another human being a love that is flourishing and alive underneath your skin. Then will come the days where you feel like you have nothing left within you to give; the days that remind you of how much you had before you lost it all, how your affection was never properly reciprocated. You will wonder if you love too deeply, you will wonder if you care too openly.
On either of these days it is important to remember that you cannot control the randomness of life, or any of its fickle flashes. Some mornings you will wake up to a sapphire sky and you will breathe, you will cry. On others you will rejoice, you will laugh with all of the vigor in your body. There are going to be moments in life that propel you forward, and there will be those that grab you by the ankles and drag you three steps in the opposite direction. Love will build you the most exquisite house made of paper and glass just to blow it down; it will grow you and it will tear you apart in the process. On most days it won’t make sense, and that is the point – life is a mess. Everything about it is a giant hurricane that we will never truly comprehend, that we will never be able to contain, but that is what makes it so stunning, that is what makes it perfect.
As William Lear famously said, ‘It’s all a mess – the hair, the bed, the words, the heart. Life.’ It is all a mess, but we cannot deny the fact that it is magic. We cannot deny the fact that it is frustrating and stunning, empty and full at the exact same time, overflowing with opportunities to feel and grow and swallow the sun whole if we truly wanted to.
Life is a mess — yes, but my god, is it ever a beautiful one.

Fall in love with someone who sees the wars within you and not only chooses to stay, but chooses to stand by your side and help you fight them. Strive to find someone who cradles your dark, who embraces your light, someone who always wants to be your best when you yourself are not your best; someone who reminds you of every strong thing you are whenever you feel feeble.

Fall in love with someone who does not make you feel like you are hard to love. Give your heart to someone who does not call you weak for feeling so deeply, someone who adores the soft creature you are, and who fights to protect it in a hardened world.

Fall in love with someone who challenges you, who inspires you to think and feel. Fall in love with someone who ignites a wildness within you; someone who grows your mind just as much as they grow your heart.

Fall in love with someone who respects you for changing because they understand that it means you’re growing. Dedicate yourself to the person who stands in awe of how you bloom, how you flourish; someone who loves you not only for who you are, but for who you have the potential to be.

Please, do not ever settle for less. Keep waiting. Keep learning about yourself, keep trying and fighting for the heart within your chest. Keep growing and nourishing your wants, keep discovering your needs. When the time is right, you are going to fall in love with someone who will appreciate everything you stand for, who will compliment you in ways you never imagined. When the time is right, the love you have always been worthy of will flower within your life, and you will finally, finally, understand why you had to wait so long. ✨

In awe of the soft souls ✨

Stay soft ✨ I've shared this poem before, but it's one of my absolute favorite additions to my new book, and a perfect example of the kind of poetry that is within the collection. I am so excited for all of you to read The Strength In Our Scars — it is truly a project that came from the deepest part of my heart. If you want to learn more about the release, click the link in my bio. 💛

"To be human is to understand that life is going to meet you with circumstances that will bury you deep within yourself, with things that will hurt to acknowledge, with people who will fumble with the way you feel so deeply. And to be human is to understand that life is going to meet you with opportunities that make your chest well with gratitude, with things that will make you want to live again, with people who will hold even the most damaged parts of who you are and kiss them softly, folding them back into you a little less bruised, and a little less broken, than they were before.
To be human is to understand that you have the capacity to be the person you have always hoped to be, that you don’t have to surrender yourself to the person you were when you were navigating your sadness, or your confusion, or how lost you felt in this world. To be human is to understand that you don’t have to hang your mistakes along your spine — you are strong enough to forgive them, to do the hard work, to confront what is heavy within you. To be human is to understand that you are strong enough to set it all down, to let it go, to call it by it's name so it can no longer control you.

To be human is to understand that happiness isn’t a constant. But to be human is to understand that neither is sorrow, or grief, or heartache. To be human is to feel it all, to welcome the lessons that come with the dark days, to welcome the softness that comes from the lightness of what saves you. To be human is to try, with every inch of your patchwork soul, to be proud of who you are. To care. To heal. To be your own home, even on the days you don’t like yourself, even on the days where it doesn’t come naturally. To be human is to grow in the ups, and to grow in the downs. So keep growing. Keep growing.” — excerpt from my journal, which is a beautiful notebook from @etsyca and @wrinkleandcrease at the moment. #EtsyInsider #sponsored

And I know how hard it is to walk away from someone you deeply care for. I know how hard it is to lay all of that love down, to close your heart off to all that it sees in another human being. But in walking away you will learn how to pour all of the love that you were giving to the wrong person, back into yourself. And you will learn how to pour it into all that you desire in life, you will learn how to pour it into your growth, into your art, into your hope. You will learn how to stand up for your feeling, how to stand up for its value. And when you teach yourself that you deserve to be loved, without having to beg for that love, without having to chase that love down, you open yourself to the kind of beauty that chooses you just as freely as you choose it. You open yourself to the kind of people who see you and immediately know that you are a rare and beautiful thing. You open yourself to new beginnings, to a future that unfolds in ways that don’t hurt or break you down, but rather, build you up, and show you just how worthy you are of having your heart held. ✨

I wish I could tell you when things are going to heal within your heart. I wish I could tell you that you’re better off, and that you deserve so much more than the person who broke you open, than the person who walked away. But I can’t. I can’t. Because I know how difficult it is to lose someone who is responsible for some of the happiest moments in your life. I know how difficult it is to lose someone who filled you with memories, who made you believe, even if just for a moment, in the tenderness and the existence of a love that was created for you. I know how difficult it is to unlearn all of that hope, to unravel it from your bones, to hold those goodbyes between your teeth, to not want to face the reality of that farewell.
All I can tell you is this — all of the things that broke you, all of the things that cracked you open, they are all going to amount to something. They did not happen to you for nothing. And I know how hard it is to see that. I know how hard it is to believe in your growth before you feel it, before you see it. I know how difficult it is to believe in the lessons life is teaching you when they hurt you in ways you never thought you would be hurt, when they are unplanned and unwanted and unruly.
But please, just remember —  the people who left, the people who could not value you, the situations and the relationships that did not work out, the endings that came your way, they all led you here. And here you are growing. Here, your losses are lessons. Here you are learning about yourself, and your resilience, and your strength. Here you are healing, even if it feels like you are not, because here you are choosing to continue, you are choosing to move forward in the direction of all it is that you truly do deserve, no matter how slowly the progress comes. Here, you are finding yourself again. So just be here. In this feeling, in this hurt, in this growth. Just be here in this becoming.

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