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Raff🌈  C a 🌴 i f ☀️r n i a 🌱// plant based 👦🏻👧🏼🧒🏼// Mateo + Luca & Lola <twins> • 8 months apart 👰🏻♥️👰🏻// wifed for life

I proposed to Micaela in Sausilito⛵️Today for the first time with the kids, we adventured around the Bay back to this special place and it was nothing short of magical✨

In honor of #nationalcomingoutday 🏳️‍🌈 I want to say this. AGAIN ... Coming out, especially in the wake of our current political climate, can be so incredibly intimidating. Although I came out years ago, I still have to come out to people on a weekly basis. Responses to comments like "Oh, what kind of doctor is your husband?" or "Does their Dad have blue eyes too?" continually out me as I correct them. While sometimes I like to mess with people when they make comments about "my husband" or "their dad," I usually explain that, "my WIFE is a surgeon and, oh her eyes are green." You can imagine the confusion that sometimes happens. While it is easier and often faster to just go along with the story, I have come to realize that every time I do that, I'm only perpetuating a stereotype. Additionally, every time I play along with THEIR story it is a missed opportunity for my own story. Micaela and I are extremely lucky. Neither of us have faced extreme discrimination because of our sexual orientation. We live in a part of the country that is liberal and generally accepting of our community. We are also 'safe' lesbians. We are feminine, we could pass as straight, and we don't tend to "make people uncomfortable" with our gender roles. But not everyone in our community identifies as such and are as well received. So while you may find it effortless to accept me, I encourage you to spread that same compassion to members of my community that might make you a little uncomfortable, because they definitely don't have it so easy. And for those of you like me, who are often assumed to be straight, I challenge you to stand with me and commit to re-outing yourself at EVERY opportunity. Your conversation may take our entire community one step closer to acceptance so that one day we won't need to have a "Coming Out Day" ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 #ReOutYourself #claimthegay #equality #outandabout
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Apparently today is International Lesbian Day!🌈 Consider this my proud to be a lesbian post ✊🏼 And for those of you who still think Micaela is my roommate, sister, or mother (it happened), consider this my coming out post! 🏳️‍🌈 Happy Lesbian Day to all my lady loving ladies!👩‍❤️‍👩 Tag your favorite lesbian below!💋
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📸: @tonygambinophoto

Still working on the family selfie....but you get the idea😂

It’s SATURDAY! 😍😍

Despite what they teach you in High School Sex Ed., getting pregnant- especially if you are a lesbian, isn’t easy (or cheap!). We bought 15 vials 💸 of our donor’s sperm because we weren’t sure how many times it would take for us to both get pregnant🤰🏼♥️🤰🏻We wanted to make sure we had enough to ensure that our children would all share the same donor and had no idea how many times it would take. It ended up taking taking SEVEN rounds of IUI’s between us both. Three rounds for Micaela and four rounds for myself. Can’t wait to share more with you guys about our journey as well as the journey‘s of other same sex parents on the ✨BLOG✨ which I promise is coming so so soon!♥️

I never thought I would be THAT person to meet up with people I’ve connected with over the internet, but turns out it’s actually really really fun! This last June we met up with Christina and Katie from @babybaileymamadrama at SF Pride🌈 After following one another’s TCC journey, it was so special to see all our kids together in one place! This weekend we are meeting up with @allieandsam as they tour through 🌁SF and I’m so excited to finally connect in real life I can hardly stand it!❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 Have you ever met up with your IG friends?! Tag your internet besties below!👇🏼

This has been an incredibly rough week for me, as I’m sure it has been for many of you. I haven’t felt like myself and I can’t help but feel the heavy weight of our current situation sitting on my chest. Constantly. I’m angry. Im hurt and I’m frustrated. And I’m definitely not “over it.” Stay close to those who make you feel loved and get closer to those who honor your worth #loveisloveislove ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

First of MANY Pumpkin Patch visit’s this season! 🎃

Women can do hard things. We can stand in an operating room for hours at a time and save lives of people in our community👩🏻‍⚕️We can carry children for months in our wombs and bring them into the world safely🤰🏽We can run multi-million dollar business corporations👩🏼‍💼And if you are one woman in particular, you can stand at the podium in Capital Hill🏛and testify against a man who sexually assaulted you years ago. A man who also happens to be a Supreme Court Justice nominee. Today has been a mixed bag of emotions for me as I reflect on the hearing of Dr. Ford. Feelings of anger, feelings of hopelessness, feelings of gratitude and feelings of hope. It’s made me realize that we, as women and as a society, have come a long way. I’m thankful to be part of such a progressive society where women can hold positions of power and women’s voices can even be heard, but DAMN we have some work to do. It’s also made me realize the massive responsibility we have as parents in raising our children👦🏻🧒🏼👧🏼 A responsibility to teach our girls body privacy and personal agency-yes, but also to help them realize their power, self-worth and value♥️ Something equally important that is not talked about enough, is the responsibility we must take on in raising our boys. Teaching our boys to respect women, to honor consent and to value gender equality cannot start young enough. This starts in the home. It starts in schools. It starts in the work place and it starts NOW. We have so much work to do, but we have the power to make change. We can do hard things. And we deserve better. ✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿

Psssst. Have you heard? Your favorite Vegan hair care is launching a new scent- Pistachio! 💚 And does it smell DIVINE!! I customized my set to focus on anti-frizz, hydration and shine. I’ve been using @functionofbeauty for six months now and honestly couldn’t love it more! I 💚 using a product that was custom made for me- it even has my name on the bottle!💁🏻‍♀️ Hit the link in my bio for $5 off and to customize your new shampoo and conditioner set based on YOUR personal hair type and hair goals!✌🏼#celebrateindividuality #functionofbeauty

When I went vegan a few years ago, I went all in🌿 I slowly started phasing out my beauty products that weren’t vegan/cruelty-free and replaced them with products that were🐰But it took a lot of trial and error to find vegan products I actually liked. Many just weren’t what I was looking for🤷🏻‍♀️ @joingoodbeing has created a monthly subscription box where you can pick✌🏼of the many products you receive each month! So if there is a brand or product you really want to test before buying-you can! (Also of note, Micaela cannot be trusted with an open container of blush😳)
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