If we hold the idea of impermanence in our hearts, we can be more kind, wise, and forgiving.
We can also fall into despair if we dwell on how fast time goes + how fragile human existence is, but I’m talking about having a healthy appreciation of the sacredness of time.
Most things in life aren’t worth fretting over. We tend to get caught up in very small details, make mountains out of molehills, and take certain things too seriously. I am so guilty of all of this. We look at *greener* grass and think about ways to change where we are. In some cases, that’s absolutely what we should be doing. And there are situations to be taken very seriously. But in terms of those little superficial things... looking back, we often thing fondly of the times (ones we were maybe even trying to move past), and don’t remember those silly little details.
Really take a moment to let it sink in that each and every day is special, and will never exist again. Each season, each chapter, each heartbreak, happens for a reason. Also realize that at any moment we could be gone, an our loved ones could be too. Nothing is guaranteed, and it’s up to us to find the joy in every day, even in the really tough ones. Treat yourself well and remember that you do deserve the good things that happen to you- because if not now, then when?
With such a mindset, forgiveness will come more easily. Empathy will blossom. Appreciation for the seasons of our lives with strengthen. We’ll remember that one day what we’re living right now may be the good old days. And we will stand up for ourselves more, because we will know deep in our hearts that this is our one shot at life, and we deserve to be treated well.
Yesterday marked one year of losing our friend Inge, and today, her boyfriend Hayden. Words still cannot describe their loss. They probably never will. But the absence of friends, and the loss of chapters of our lives, reminds us of how we can live better and to really appreciate people. Because being alive is so special, and we have one shot at it. Cherish it, love others, and above all, be kind to everyone, especially yourself.
Photo by my sweet husband @charles_post