Amazing and brave story from my friend Jess.
Repost from @jbukfiddy using @RepostRegramApp - This photo was taken probably a month or 2 after I was sexually assaulted by a guy who was my friend when I was 21. I see things surface on social media/interwebs a lot about this topic and a lot of nasty things being said. It took me a long time to be able to tell anyone exactly what happened to me because of people like them, people's judgement. I blamed myself for a long time which is the saddest part of all. I thought because I was the one who invited him to my home that it was my fault, but at the end of the day I said no, and he had sex with me anyway. From this happening it took a massive toll on me without me even fully understanding what had happened, I started doing drugs/drinking everyday, I lost a lot of weight and hit 51kg, I had multiple mental breakdowns, anxiety attacks, I even tried to overdose but was unsuccessful, and my trust towards people has always been at nil since - which is something I'm working on everyday. 5 years and 3 shrinks later I am feeling the best I've felt in forever. But I still have days, as we all do. When I finally started telling people about my experience I had a couple of people not take it seriously or put judgement on me. I'm not looking for sympathy by this I'm trying to explain to people that this is a VERY common occurrence. I'm not ashamed to talk about it anymore nor should anyone else be. This experience has given me a greater understanding of why people are the way they are, the ability to put myself in other people's shoes, understanding mental illness. It has given me the ability to filter out people I don't want in my life and most important of all it's given me so much strength. So next time you hear or read a story like this, maybe stop the victim blaming. #sexualassault #victimblaming