I recommended this book to many of you over the last year. I pick it off my shelves and in the first place it falls open I am reminded why... ❝ There is a certain economy to relationships, one reflected in the language that often surrounds talking about them. Let's call it emonomics. People talk about 'investing' in relationships, cutting their losses, also the word 'value' (multifaceted as it is) features heavily in all sorts of selfhelpish communications. When people consider their sense of self worth, how (or whether) they are 'valued' in their relationships, nobody ever seems to consider the hard sell, the flogging of your wares in a collapsed market. An object passes the event horizon, into the black hole, without ever appearing to do so to an external observer. I caught myself having a dream in which in an effort to persuade someone to have sex with me, I said to them: 'My father always told me "Nothing is free in this life, but some things are cheaper than others".' ❞
I die, in love, and rise again. Take this as a final voice of recommendation. For myself, I will keep the book beneath my pillow. It is a solace and a joy amidst a painful tide.