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This last week my son asked if he could cook breakfast for me and his sister. He took on the entire task and wouldn't let me do anything ... he served both of us before he sat down to eat. I was overjoyed and my heart was so full of love for this little four year old. I kept thinking about the affect that our culture has on men and boys ... to tell them to be strong, to not feel, to be tough etc etc etc. Patriarchy is taught and drilled into our culture ... telling our sons and daughters where they belong in society
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My son confided in me one day that a care giver mocked his tears at school and said they should put him in a diaper because he was being a cry baby. I watched as this sweet boy attempted to hold back his tears from the pain that memory brought up. My mama bear heart lit up on fire when I heard this, but I know that correcting one person will not change the culture that my son and daughter will grow up in. We all have to challenge these ideas!!! πŸ’”
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I become more and more feminist all of the time, but feminism can not just be about equality for women. Our sons must be allowed to feel so that we can raise them to understand and channel their feelings. We cannot squash them and expect them to grow emotionally mature. Strength doesn't lie in not feeling and manliness is not ignoring emotions
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My son is so loving and tender hearted. He is a servant and more willing to help me around the house than his sister is. He is an artist and creator. He loves to have his finger nails painted just like his sister does and I see no problem with it. But he also has a darker side that many people think is him "being a boy." He gets very angry and is harmful and destructive at times. I not only want my son to be able to cry and know his own sadness but I also want him to know what is behind his anger and to give him lifelong tools to channel these overpowering emotions. "Boys will be boys" is not a phrase you will hear in our home, but rather "Let's sit down and talk ... what are you feeling right now?" πŸ’—
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Won't you help me change our culture so that both our sons AND our daughters benefit from it? #boyswillbeboys #boymom #feminism #allthefeels #endpatriarchy

15 Comments

  • 15w ago laceythatsbrilliant laceythatsbrilliant

    I loved reading this!

  • 15w ago lizzypatpat lizzypatpat

    Yes, yes, yes! I love when you share your words! Inspiring!

  • 14w ago ginnylimer ginnylimer

    πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌ

  • 14w ago rachelle.isms rachelle.isms

    @_spaceylacey Thanks!

  • 14w ago rachelle.isms rachelle.isms

    @lizzypatpat πŸ˜˜πŸ’ž

  • 14w ago rachelle.isms rachelle.isms

    @ginnylimer Thank you, Ginny

  • 14w ago joymarie1981 joymarie1981

    Oh my gosh yes!!! Makes me so mad when people won't let boys cry or express emotions! Then we wonder why they are so angry or withdrawn! Seriously makes me crazy!! I am working hard to raise boys who are communicators and can express their feelings! Thank you for saying this out loud

  • 14w ago rachelle.isms rachelle.isms

    @joymarie1981 Exactly! And what a relief to hear it from another mother!πŸ’” 🀜🏻 Solidarity!

  • 14w ago mysweetbratz13 mysweetbratz13

    AMEN!! So true.

  • 14w ago rachelle.isms rachelle.isms

    @mysweetbratz13 πŸ™πŸ»

  • 14w ago kittensandwine kittensandwine

    This is such an important conversation!

  • 14w ago rachelle.isms rachelle.isms

    @kittensandwine Yes, it is! And I think both sides of patriarchy/feminism have to hear it. Let's not forget our sons while we are advocating for our daughters

  • 14w ago kittensandwine kittensandwine

    @rachelle.isms Exactly! I work in schools as a counsellor and there is so much attention on self-esteem groups for girls ... what about the boys? What about teaching them to love themselves as they are and telling them it's ok to feel what they feel and healthy ways to express it?

  • 14w ago rachelle.isms rachelle.isms

    @kittensandwine I was afraid to post this today, but it has brought up such good conversations on all of my social media platforms. I'm so glad we can talk about this!πŸ’—

  • 14w ago joymarie1981 joymarie1981

    @rachelle.isms both my boys are sensitive little souls like your little guy. It's so hard to raise them with a balance of tenderness and toughness. Let me tell you what though, if someone would have said that to my little guy when he was crying I would have ripped them a new one! Way to have self control! Solidarity for sure!! πŸ‘ŠπŸ½

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