Look. I wanna know what YOU think of this.
I'm not gonna sit here and preach that self love is going to change the shitty system we live in.
It won't help marginalized bodies, it won't alleviate oppression, it won't stop war, it won't stop the bad shit that others go through because of their race/sexuality/gender/ability/size/age. It won't stop the way the world treats you or them.
If you aren't vouching for other bodies, if you aren't listening to other women, if you don't see or hear anything other than your experience, that's an issue. You loving yourself or having moments of selfies IS NOT changing systemic oppression.
I think the self love movement CAN promote solidarity and understanding between bodies, I think it can promote proper space where due and I DO think that it can help a person in bad moments of hating or wanting to kill themselves.
So I'm not going to tell you to love yourself out of an idea that it's going to change the way marginalized folks are treated. I also don't think publicly dragging other women helps bodies find intersectionalism and how to constructively use it to make the small changes they can in their lives. You have the responsibility of doing that on your own, call people out/in, yes and you also should have a community no matter what you're facing of people who are here for you and want to help you learn and grow.
EVERYONE can do better. Myself included. There IS NO right way to be an ally. Your allyship will be paradoxically flawed due to the double edged sword that capitalism has placed on us. You will uplift one body and another body will talk about how that oppresses them, you will try to do right and someone will screen shot you and rip you a new one with their academia thesis on a platform that's used for selfies and pictures of pizza.
So ask questions, get messy, listen to others and know that you'll be wrong in the process and keep trying for it. I won't slander you or give up on you or not give you resources.
I don't believe in a "feminism" that says "this is your responsibility" that's capitalism talking and I don't think it builds a new foundation for a better future.
And being better for our future is what I want.