Fill in the blank: Once I lose weight I’ll ______. Once I change jobs I’ll ______. When I make more money I’ll ______. After I leave that relationship I’ll _____. I used to have a lot of things to insert into those blanks and I was waiting. Hopeful. But waiting and not doing. I was putting certain things off. Like myself. As time passed I realized the more I focused on the destination of where I wanted to be and wasn’t at, I wasn’t actually appreciating where I was. The more I focused on that, the less I was finding progress in the present. There was so much progress. I wanted to honor it, but it became harder to find celebration of the current journey and peace in the moment. This moment - which is all we have for certain. I was always 10 steps ahead, climbing, grinding. I decided my happiness wasn’t a destination but a journey, and stopped putting goals on weight and attaching my worth to job titles and salaries and partners and instead started doing the things that got pushed to the side for so long because I was looking for the next thing. I started living life like it’s the only one we’ve got - because it is. If there are things like these above that no longer serve you and that you’re waiting to happen in order to start - release them, change them, leave them and do the things you’ve been waiting to do. Don’t wait until you climb the next rung on the ladder. The next goal on your check list. The next size smaller in pants. Don’t wait until everything is perfect because it may never be.
I don’t dislike goals. I love aspirations and working towards them but I also love the messy, real, honest moments and mistakes we have leading up to them that makes the pursuit so sweet and true. Once we hit our goals what’s normally next? More goals, more pressure- we continue to climb that ladder, hustle to the next job, find the next partner, and strive to lose the next pound until we want to keep losing more and more while making more and more. Goals come and go just like the weight, jobs and people will. But one thing that remains is the present and the joy the journey can bring when we realize the pursuit IS happiness, and not always the pursuit OF happiness❤️