We are people of principle and virtue
And we fight for those things -- more often for others, yet also for ourselves
Though that takes much more of us than we are sometimes ready to bring.
We fight by speaking the Truth
By shining a Light on the Dark places and calling out to those who are hidden to join us
With great love and compassion and faith
We fight by surviving it all
By refusing to be erased
We fight by bending and changing and growing and transforming into something greater -- Nick Heap (October 2016) ---- I've been waffling with uncertainty about whether I was going to post anything specifically for National Coming Out Day or not, because frankly I don't think that there's a single person in my life that doesn't know that I fall firmly on the gay end of the LGB spectrum.
The act of picking a label for myself, though, always gets complicated and messy because... are we defining how I related to the person? or the combinations of genders? or the form of our physical bodies at the time? or a dozen other possible considerations that frankly make my head hurt trying to juggle them into a coherent "word" that others might understand.
My reality is that at various points in my life, I have identified as a lesbian, a dyke, a gay man, a bisexual and ultimately as Queer -- because whatever else I may have been defined as by myself or others, I can definitely say that I have never been straight... My hope is that one day we won't have to "celebrate" this Day at all because whatever expression of sexuality one may have will be totally accepted - whenever and however one chooses to share that very personal information with others.
In the meantime, I celebrate those who stand in their authentic self-expression, who claim their sexuality and share your joy in knowing that we are worthy of love and respect. I also recognize that there are those whose lives and circumstance are such that for their safety and wellbeing chose not to live openly.
My hope is that one day soon all people who share this way of being find safety and acceptance and love.