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NADIA 🇬🇧🇵🇰 📌UK  ⁣⁣⁣MINDSET🧠| PARENTING👶#growth #selfawareness ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣Encouraging-Learning-Pep-Talking Mum of🤟⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣I 💜☕️📚🗣✍️📸 ⁣⁣⁣

We want our children to have the very best of everything, the best clothes, the best education, the best manners etc. We hope & pray they live easier lives than us & surpass us with every kind of success, but how often do we think about our child’s personal relationship with God? ⁣

Are we as parents cultivating that relationship between them and Allah? Do we talk about Allah ﷻ & how it was Him that created them, He ﷻ designed them, their features & placed them with us. It was no big accomplishment of ours that we are their parents, but they are a blessing, a gift, an amanah (trust) for us from Him ﷻ.⁣

About 5 years ago, I started to talk to Allah ﷻ, not in prayer or sitting on the prayer mat but just throughout the day. I would whisper to Allah ‘Ya Allah help me’, ‘Help me to get there on time ya Rab’ & I’ve even asked Allah ﷻ to ‘help me with a parking space’. It’s amazing how after I ask things always work out easily, I always believe that it’s because He ﷻ is with me and He ﷻ helps me. As I did this more & more I felt a closeness to Allah, I feel as though I know Him better & He is always helping me & guiding me in life. I make an effort to say these things loudly so my children can hear me & know that Allah ﷻ is the source of any success, good or achievement in our life. In my earlier life it wasn’t always this way, I felt distant & disconnected from God. Salah was a memorised set of words & actions & there was no thought of Him ﷻ at any other time of the day. ⁣

Of all the things I pray for my children one of things I pray the most is that they grow up to be God conscious individuals. Our faith is our strongest source of strength & hope, I hope they have this to hold on to.⁣

‘Whoever draws close to me by the length of a hand, I will draw close to him by the length of an arm. Whoever draws close to me the by length of an arm, I will draw close to him by the length of a fathom. Whoever comes to me walking, I will come to him running’ ⁣

The best gift we can give our children is a foundation for their relationship with Allah ﷻ. When we wont be around or wont be able to help them we can take solace in knowing that Allah ﷻ will always be there for them.

What we on focus grows, what we think about expands and what we talk about mostly is what will will see more of. ⁣⁣⁣
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It is so true that we create our own reality in life. Every single day we are presented with situations, thoughts and decisions, every day we make choices and those choices make us.⁣ ⁣
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Google the ‘reticular activating system’ it’s amazing how much we control where our attention goes just based on what we talk or think about. So our brain is selectively choosing and customising our attention for our own individual selves. ⁣We do not see everything, we see things as we are. That means every one of us is having a very unique experience in the world, which is tailored to ourselves just the way our Instagram/Facebook feeds are. It’s kind of the algorithm of the mind.,⁣
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I find this stuff so fascinating and really enjoy learning about the mind. Do you enjoy this subject or find it useful? Like if you find useful. 💜⁣⁣
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#loosingmywords #practicemakeperfect #mindsetiseverything #whatyoufocusongrows #growthmindset #

The last time I posted I was feeling very heavy hearted, disheartened & down. The Christchurch shooting was too close to my life, the mosques so familiar, the situation so relatable. This wasn’t a story from 1400 years ago, this is happening today in a community just like the one I live in. I felt a deep sense of fear, that could have been my local mosque, it could have been anyone of us or our loved ones. I felt very disturbed, my thoughts held me there until I fell asleep.⁣⁣⁣⁣
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They say ‘every day brings a new beginning’, another chance & a revived sense of hope. There it was, the next morning confirming to me, correcting me & showing that the world wasn’t a bad place. The photo of that lovely man standing outside a mosque in Manchester, holding a sign saying ‘You are my friends, I will keep watch while you pray’. This little glimpse of light is all I needed for me to be able redirect my thoughts, but it didn’t stop there every day I saw more beautiful things confirming good in the world.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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I saw the prime minster of New Zealand, hugging, comforting & grieving with families of the deceased, the flowers that so many left outside the mosque, the beautiful people who gathered outside the mosque singing ‘hallelujah’. Millions of pounds have been raised to support the families within a matter of days, the azaan playing loudly while so many non Muslims stood with respect. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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I believe that we live in a wonderful world full of beautiful souls & we have nothing to fear or be scared of. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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‘Be mindful of Allah & Allah will protect you. Be mindful of Allah & you will find Him in front of you. If you ask, then ask Allah & if you seek help, then seek help from Allah. Know that if the nation were to gather together to benefit you with anything, they would not benefit you except with what Allah had already prescribed for you. And if they were to gather together to harm you with anything, they would not harm you except with what Allah had already prescribed against you. The pens have been lifted & the pages have dried.’ [Nawawi 40]⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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Keep believing in better things, keep on spreading love & peace. #christchurchshooting

Innaliahi wa inna alayhi rajeeon To Allah ﷻ we belong and to Him ﷻ is our return. #prayfotnewzealand⁣ #christchurchshooting ⁣⁣

Leaving the world isn’t a loss, we all will inevitably leave one day, the biggest loss is how we failed as a human race. How we failed to use our faculty to think? How we wasted our existence in hate, competition and feeling threatened by one another. We reduced ourselves to less than animals, but was created with the highest consciousness of all creation. ⁣We fail and fail again and that is the biggest loss. 💔😢 ⁣⁣
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May Allah ﷻ grant the deceased with an elevated status in jannah. ⁣

#humanity #prayfornewzealand #prayforhumanity #wefailed #dividedworld #dividedhearts #hateisadisease #Allahguideus #godguideus #letslivetogetherinpeace #peace #love #unity #humanrace

Life is not happening to you, life is responding to you. It’s always a thought or something you say that comes first, the feeling or physical manifestation comes later. ⁣⁣
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You think something or say something, that triggers the release of the chemical in your brain that makes you feel angry, reactive, unhappy, hopeless. It starts with OUR thoughts. We responsible for how we feel every day and where we are in life. ⁣We have the biggest influence over ourselves, we decide and choose what we tell ourselves, we create our own reality. ⁣⁣

If only we would be more conscious of these thoughts and flip them as soon as they come, our whole experience of the world will change, our feelings about ourself, our relationships, our situations will change. The quality of our thoughts determines the quality of our life. ⁣⁣
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Thank you so much to @ayeina_official for inviting me to talk about this subject in their pre-Ramadan Productivity Course, go to the ‘productive muslimaat’ group on Facebook if you want to watch the rest and lots more awesome sisters talk about many useful topics 😊⁣⁣
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selfawareness #dontliveonautopilot #consciousliving #alwaysalhamdulillah #gratitude #goodthoughtsgoodlife #positivityisachoice #positivethinking

If we believe, we will carry all the necessary steps to manifest what we want. We will push, try and never give up on what we want to be. ⁣

We will always act, live and behave in consistent with our beliefs, so let’s believe in our abilities, believe in our strengths and believe everything we can become. ⁣

#believeinyourself #selfdevelooment #growth #strive #reminderformyself #nevergiveuponyourself

Just imagine you ceased to exist...inevitably there will be a day when we won’t be here anymore, but have you ever taken a moment to imagine the world without you. Everything will carry on but let’s just take ourselves out and think what will it be like? ⁣

Think about how some things will be different and how so many things will continue just the way they always have. Social media will carry on, designer brands will keep making new things, new makeup brands will come out, new fashion, new cars, new technology, it will all carry on. ⁣

What will the people in your life miss about you the most? Will your loved ones feel any difference in THEIR lives after you have gone? I guess what I am saying is how much of a difference do you make to the lives of those around you? Now imagine people sitting and talking about you at YOUR funeral, what will they say about you? (If you are up to it do this alone, close your eyes and visualise, it’s a far deeper experience)⁣

How much time and effort do you make for your relationships? Are you a peace maker or someone who gives fuel to problematic situations? Are you someone who people can trust, rely on and feel comfortable around? Do you take time out for others, do you try your best? What kind of a legacy are you leaving behind? These thoughts come to my mind very often, thoughts like this push me to live consciously and help me in so many ways.

The only way to optimise your life is to understand that it’s short and temporary. Knowing that it will come to an end should not lead to hopelessness but instead it should push us to do better, to think more positively and to have good intentions for everyone around us. Death isn’t morbid, it’s one of biggest realities of our life, reflecting on it is the most powerful tool to help us live a happier, fulfilled and content life. ⁣

Over the years I’ve really made myself uncomfortable learning about death and the afterlife to the point that it doesn’t disturb me anymore. Do you find this subject uncomfortable? Can you see how it helps? ⁣’like if you found this post useful.💜

#death #toallahisourreturn #growth #lifeisajourney #alhamdulillah #selfawareness #lifeisshort



One of the strongest factors in any close relationship is positive communication. It could be your husband, your children, your siblings, parents, cousins, aunty, uncle or even your friends, no matter which relationship it is, if you are not communicating effectively the relationship will suffer.⁣

It seems very simple & is common sense if you think about it, but in real life we don’t always make it so straight forward. Often feelings are suppressed, things are not dealt with & our grievances are not expressed. We might think this is the best way to deal with negative feelings or thoughts, but this is possibly the worst thing we can do for ourselves & our relationships. Brushing things under the carpet doesn’t make them go away, but instead it causes the negativity to fester & grow in to something far bigger and messier.⁣

Positive communication is about making the time to listen to each other, listening without judgment, & being open to expressing our own honest thoughts & feelings. When we have positive communication in our family it helps everybody feel understood, respected & valued. Positive communication strengthens bonds, builds trust and reinforces our relationships. We will be able to understand each other better & work on our weaknesses, we will avoid saying hurtful things out of the blue & instead will discuss things in a mature manner. ⁣

It is definitely possible to talk about our differences without being rude, derogatory or bitchy. When we communicate using a positive tone of voice, positive body language & positive words there is a far greater chance that we will be able to resolve the conflict/misunderstanding in a more amicable way.⁣ ⁣ It might be messy, uncomfortable & might not feel nice to express your bad feelings momentarily, but embracing positive communication & transparency can be the best thing we do for any relationship in the long term.⁣

It’s often the things that we put off, avoid, procrastinate that are actually the best for us to do & help us the most in the long run. (exercise, healthy eating, pushing ourselves to better things? Do you agree?💜

#positivecommunication #familyisthegreatestgift #selfdevelopment #family

Somewhere in between having my second & third child my way of thinking deteriorated. I guess it was the monotony of being at home every single day that drained me, the novelty of motherhood has passed, & my negative thinking fuelled my bad energy.⁣

Up until now, I had generally been an optimistic person, confident in who I was & happy. I don’t know how & when it happened, but I definitely wasn’t who I used to be. Life has a way of sucking the energy out of us if we allow it to. I felt stuck at home, stuck where I was in life and deeply discontent. I feel bad saying this but it’s true, I couldn’t stop feeling stuck. Often I would express this to my husband (not always in the most positive way) who would encourage me to look for a job, go & meet friends or go shopping. In my rational moments I thought about why I felt this way, deep down I knew it wasn’t because I was at home & not working since that had been my own choice. Something was missing.⁣

It really bothered me that I was becoming someone that I didn’t want to be, my negative thoughts about myself often spilled over to other people, maybe I silently compared my life to all the exciting lives displayed on social media. ⁣

It took me a little while but I soon understood it so clearly. It was me. It wasn’t anyone else, the problem was in me. So I embraced the internal change that I desperately needed & wanted yet maybe didn’t fully understand at the time. This was the point I started to wear hijab, this was the day I promised myself I would change externally and internally too. ⁣

So much of our life is about our mindset, our thought process & how we think. Today my life is pretty much the same, the situation hasn’t changed but Alhamdulliah I’m content, happy & deeply fulfilled. I’m happy for other people and I care when people are stuck because I understand how it feels. There’s still so much to improve, so much to work on, so much to become. #workinprogress⁣

In order for our lives to improve, our relationships to improve, our situations to improve it’s imperative that first we improve. ⁣

Authenticity is being vulnerable at times,this wasn’t an easy post. Like if found useful💜⁣

#positivethinking

Why does it have to take a disease, tragedy, loss of a life for us to realise how blessed we are? Why are we constantly complaining, comparing ourselves with others and finding fault? Why are we wasting away the years in this non existent race? There isn’t enough time. ⁣

Let’s live with intent, let’s live for what really matters and will matter most in our last moments. Let’s start doing more of what WE love and moving towards a life of authenticity instead of caring so much about what everyone else thinks. Let’s live every day. ⁣#lifeisshort
#thisisyourlife #yourlife #liveiteveryday #growth #nevergiveup #useyourgiftsforgood #lifteachother #agoodword #asmile #spreadlove #spreadpositivity #inshallah

Im taking part in a week long #readingwithkidschallenge to celebrate World Book Day. I love reading and encouraging my children to read, so when @multiculturalmotherhood asked me if I wanted to take part I simply couldn’t refuse!⁣

In this one week challenge myself and a group of lovely sisters tagged below, will be sharing what books we are reading with our kids and ourselves to encourage you to read more often. Reading is so helpful for children’s communication skills, vocabulary & spelling. Stories can give children such a good understanding of the world, other people’s feelings and open their mind to new ideas. It’s such a good habit for them to make in childhood, it gives us a chance to connect with our kids and can initiate many interesting conversations with them. ‘Like’ if you agree. 💜 ⁣

I would love all of you to join in on the challenge by posting what books you are reading yourself and with your kids on your Instagram profile/story and using the #readingwithkidschallenge ⁣during the rest of this week. Do tag me in your posts & stories, I would love to see what books you are reading together.☺️

Who loves reading? Who wants to start reading more? Comment below. ⁣

@multiculturalmotherhood @ilmaeducation @muslimmummy @halalmama @imanblogs @nurturingnusaybah @mamateachesme @letslearnmama @jeddahmom
#readingwithkids #worldbookday #readingismyhappyplace #alwaysmaketimetoread #keepgrowing #selfdevelopment #growth

Anything can improve, anyone can improve. Swipe⬅️⬅️⬅️

Any relationship can fixed, any talent can be perfected, any quality can be cultivated. You can get healthy, you can build that business, you get those qualifications, you can be a more patient mum, you have a better relationship with anyone! #growthmindset
You can reach where ever you want to be, you are capable of anything you want. ⁣

All we need is to is: believe in it, take small incremental steps towards it every day and most importantly have patience. ‘Like’ if you agree. 💜⁣

#growth #growthisaprocess #keepgrowing #lifegivesyouwhatyougiveit #positivethinking #selfdevelopment

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