Hello Luvs ~
As kind and empathic people, we have a tendency to over-give, often to the point of our own depletion. And besides the obvious self-worth issues that accompany this kind of behavior, the fact is - you can’t give from an empty vessel. You must fill yourself up, in order to give to another.
People who are in healthy relationships recognize this, most of the time, and want their partner to take time to recharge themselves. However, a narcissist doesn’t have feelings of empathy. Hence, they don’t care if you give, and give to the point you’re depleted. Your well-being, unless it supports them, is NOT of their concern.
In fact, with a narcissist, your reward for giving to the point of depletion is to get discarded, because you are of no value to them any more. That is, until you restore yourself in time for their inevitable hoovering.
So the next time you feel guilty, or like you need to explain why you need to take care of you - STOP! And remember, self-care requires no explanation.
Happy Saturday! ~ ✌🏽➕🖤