Giving yourself permission to be on the outside who it is you feel you are on the inside requires courage, committment, stamina and a deep desire for authenticity. It's hard to break free of the lies we told about ourselves before we knew they were lies (think about that). For this reason I try my best not to judge other people when I see them acting differently than they used to, because I know most of these people are fighting for their internal freedom. My judgment definitely won't help them succeed. We all are, in one form or other, trying to figure out who we are and how we best fit into this world. We are all after the truth of our souls... the most loving thing we can do for one another on our mutual journey is be open, supportive and accepting.