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Megan Bruneau M.A., RCC  NYC & remote psychotherapist, writer, coach, storyteller & host of The Failure Factor. Here 2 help you like yourself (and life) a little more πŸ‘ŒπŸ»β˜ΊοΈ

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Pumped to be speaking alongside some seriously badass women this Sat! Join me at 12:20pm at @solacenewyork to jam out on body confidence, dating, and following yo' dreams! 😍✨. .
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Tix are $20 and give you access to a full day of seminars, workouts, yoga, and all 'round magic πŸ‘ŠπŸ» (plus all proceeds go to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation). Hosted by the incredible @jenwiderstrom and including:
@cheslap
@christmasabbott
@drbelisa
@jaimeschehr
@katfowleryoga
@nikkirica
@stefficohen
@squadwod
@trainwithheidi

I get asked a lot about my "5-year plan" – where I intend to go with my business; whether I'll stay in New York or go back to Vancouver; if I see myself getting married or having kids πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘§. .
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The truth is I have no freakin' clue what my life will look like in 5 years πŸ€·πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ, and honestly? I prefer it that way. For me, expectation has always been the fastest route to disappointment, especially given we have little control over the gazillion moving parts from which our future unfolds ✨. .
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One of the most positive shifts in my day-to-day has been recognizing when I'm attaching to expectation or what "should" be (usually created by media πŸ™„); then encouraging my mind to come up with other possibilities for ways my story could go – cultivating a sense of curiosity/wonder vs. judgment/"knowing" – not just with my "5-year plan," but with my everyday: my mood, my thoughts, my health, my energy, my work, my body, family, dating, traveling, events, other people's behavior, etc. .
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And I'm fairly confident beginning to recognize and detach from expectations (on yourself and others, and expectations for how your day/life "should" go) can have a profound impact on you, too πŸ‘ŠπŸ».
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Start here: try to catch yourself expecting. Don't judge yourself for it (it's a way of coping with uncertainty), but ask yourself, "what are some other possibilities for how my day/experience/life could go? πŸ€” Can I embrace those possibilities?" (hint: with self-compassion, you can).
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Finally, a nuance to get really effing deep: I sense there's a part of me that conflates hope and expectation, detaching from BOTH as a protective mechanism because I don't want to feel vulnerable to disappointment/grief/hurt should things not go the way I'd envisioned. .
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Hope can either serve or harm us, depending on the context; so maybe the next step in my own spiritual development is to let myself feel hope without expectation (my fellow recovering perfectionists hear me!). We'll call it "Wise Hope" πŸ˜ƒ. But one step at a time. .
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So if I haven't totally confused you, consider playing with this shift and see what happens. No expectations (multiple expectations?) of course 😜.
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πŸ“·: @ksenia_avdulova

Despite what you may have been told by parents and teachers during the self-esteem movement of the 90’s, you’re not perfect 😬. And despite what media and capitalism want you to believe, you’ll never be. Heyooooo πŸ€—!
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Of course, the good news is you can join the rest of us mortals in the Humanity Club – where at times we fuck up, say the wrong thing, and feel shitty; where we have cellulite and wrinkles and other physical "flaws;" where sometimes we drink or eat or smoke or Netflix too much; where at times we have β€œcrazy” thoughts and prickly feelings and lose our temper; where we get rejected and dumped and fall short of expectations πŸ’”. .
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Over here in the Humanity Club, we strive to learn and grow and be more #woke peeps, and we concurrently love and support each other (and ourselves) in our imperfect states. I promise it's a good time (plus the stories are way better over here ). Welcome πŸ™πŸ».
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Check out my story for more on how acknowledging our universal imperfection is integral to self-love πŸ˜˜πŸ’• #inthistogether #selflove #buddhism

Yo, did you guys know I have a podcast? I interview #entrepreneurs on their past challenges and failures (my sneaky way of trying to change dominant societal narratives and disarm #perfectionism 😏)
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Starting a #podcast is DEFINITELY not something I would've done before learning self-compassion/self-love 😳. You see, when we're governed by self-criticism (and shame's other cute lil' attempts at motivation and "protection"), we understandably don't have the confidence to do new shit/shit we're not 100% certain we'll be good at – because we don't know how to support ourselves if we bomb. So we just avoid anything that makes us feel vulnerable to "failure." πŸ™…πŸΌ
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And if we do get started, self-criticism is more likely to leave us feeling overwhelmed and to give up upon our first whiff of uncertainty or defeat πŸ˜‘. We then stay in our uncomfortable comfort zones yet feel frustrated about our stagnancy or indecision 😀. .
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So if there's a creative project you've been wanting to start πŸ”¨a blog, podcast, book, website, business, nonprofit, IG account, dinner-party series, class, club, etc.), but fear and doubt are holding you back, keep practicing this self-love stuff ✨ and give yourself permission to not know or be good at everything; to figure it out as you go; to fuck up; to do it imperfectly; to quit; even to fail – then see if you feel a little more mobilized in taking your next (realistic) step πŸ‘ŠπŸ».
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Pic is from today's interview with the brilliant @myollie co-founder @gibblesanbits 🐢. And check out my most recent episode with the wise and hilarious @smerrill212 of @bigkidproblems, made possible by @discoverlms 🎧 ("The Failure Factor" on iTunes or follow the link in my bio). .
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Oh also! To those of you asking about my self-love vids, yes there are many more where that came from and I'll get the past ones up on my site soon 😘. Xoxo
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#followyodreams #getafterit #yougotthis
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πŸ“·: @sophieiweill

β€œWe think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don't really get solved. They come together and they fall apart πŸ’”. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It's just like that πŸ€·πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy…” .
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-Pema Chodron ✨
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If you've ever gotten an email from me, you’ll know this quote's in my signature – it basically summarizes everything I stand for 😎. Check out my latest story to see what I mean 😘.
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Oh, and Happy Canadian Thanksgiving, Loves πŸ¦ƒπŸŽπŸ - I'm feeling hella grateful for all the things that have fallen apart in my life, because they led me to you πŸ’—πŸ™πŸ» .
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(Also thankful for like, health and loved ones and privilege and safety and shit – don't want the Universe to get the wrong impression here 😳). #impermanence #britishcolumbia #lakelyfe
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πŸ“·: @lindsa_loo

If you look closely, you'll see a tattoo on my foot that reads "Infragilis" - latin for "unbreakable." I got it when I was 19 with my best friend (she got "Amicitia," which means "friendship"). πŸ‘­
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Together, the words honored our sisterhood, but the ink had a quieter, individual meaning for me as well: I honestly believed it would give me the strength I'd been so desperately seeking πŸ’ͺ🏻; that it would be the answer toΒ Β my depression, my shame, my eating disorders πŸ˜”. .
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Back then I thought the avenue to "normal" was to never be sad, anxious, or lonely - so I attempted to sublimate those feelz into anger, using the heavy bag in my basement πŸ₯Š and a lot of #Eminem (I dare ya to go toe-to-toe with me on any album of his btw '99 and '02 😏). I used #perfectionism and #anxiety to manage my shame and self-loathing, and berated and numbed myself when I was unsuccessful (which was often bc well, that shit don't work πŸ™„). .
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Almost 13 years later, "unbreakable" has a different meaning for me – because I've learned true strength actually comes from emotional resilience and self-compassion. I've learned coping with #lyfe isn't about turning off your feelz; it's about going into them with love (As Rumi says, "The cure for pain is in the pain") πŸ’—. So sometimes I still glance at my foot when I'm feeling shitty (and um, have bare feet 😬); but today my tattoo's a reminder to open my heart and honor them feelz, #wheelpose not required βœ‹πŸ».
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Happy weekend, my loves πŸ˜˜πŸ’•. #inthistogether #nyc
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πŸ“·: @ksenia_avdulova
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Wearing @weekendsafari 🐘 Tee and @ethika leggings ✨

"Won't self-compassion make me lazy or complacent?" 😬
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Nope. Self-compassion will actually motivate you because you'll feel empowered to take risks and acquire new skills - and you'll ultimately GROW (instead of being paralyzed, and confined to your comfort zone by threats and self-criticism).
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"Won't self-compassion make me narcissistic or absolving of responsibility?" 😱
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Nada! Unlike some of the destructive "self-love" stuff out there, self-compassion isn't about being perfect or being stoked on every part of you. It's about acknowledging that you're IMPERFECT, like everyone else (imperfection is the human condition πŸ‘ŠπŸ»), and that's okay. In making space for our imperfections, we feel less shame and avoidance in thinking of them; and we can thus bring attention to our deficits and focus on growth, change, and accepting responsibility for mistakes and transgressions.
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"Won't self-compassion make me weak or emotional?" πŸ€”
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Negative. In giving ourselves permission to feel the healthy, normal emotions we're supposed to feel (all emotions, even the difficult ones, are normal and healthy in some contexts), we don't create the additional, unnecessary layer of suffering that comes out of self-judgment; and we learn to seek what we need vs. trying to "muscle through" pain (which ultimately leads to breakdowns).
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"Everyone else deserves compassion but me." πŸ˜”
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Nay, m'dear. That's a story your mind is telling you. EVERY LIVING BEING IS WORTHY OF COMPASSION, and that includes YOU. You're not on this planet for long, and you deserve to feel like you're enough while you're here – you deserve peace > anxiety πŸ’•. And guess what else? Compassion is a skill that can be learned (MRI studies confirm changes in the brain!), and there's ample research supporting self-compassion is effective in treating depression, anxiety, #trauma, eating disorders, and more πŸ€—. So give it a whirl. You know how to be hard on yourself - you can always go back to that.
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What other fears or questions do you have about changing the way you relate to yourself? Share and I'll do my best to convince you otherwise 😜! Xx
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#inthistogether #yougotthis #selflove #edrecovery #bodypositive

If this city can be continuously under-construction and still lovable AF, so can we πŸ™‚βœ¨
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Check out my story for today's nugget on self-love, and stay tuned for my go-to response for coping with tha shitty feelz πŸ‘ŠπŸ»
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#brooklyn #accepttochange #selflove #nyc
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πŸ“·: @jennifersandra

This is your weekly reminder that you are already worthy of compassion AS YOU ARE; that you shouldn't have to convince anyone to love you (I'm still working on that one 😬 #datinginnewyork), and that your value is not determined by your size, salary, spelling, or successes πŸ™…πŸΌ. .
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Every experience - comfortable or uncomfortable - passes, and at the end of the day all we have is this moment – then it's gone 😧. And we can choose to be self-compassionate or self-berating in said moment. So wake up to this one as your perfectly imperfect, curious, student-of-life self, and see what you notice ✨. This, my friends, is the foundation of change. .
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If you didn't catch my intro videos to self-love, check out my story and join the rest of us in this transformative practice. We all on this bumpy, scriptless journey together πŸ˜˜πŸ’•. Wishing you all a grounded start to your week, and sending you muchos love xo
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#impermanence #selflove #newyork

Weekend thoughts to mull over πŸ€”: .
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When I say give yourself permission to be imperfect, I’m not just talking physically (though this is important!) – I’m talking emotionally. Did you know that β€œhappiness” is an industry? That pharmaceutical companies, diet BS, and capitalism in general are fueled by the belief that difficult emotions mean you’re "doing life wrong?" Or that you’re broken or weak or bad? .
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One of the most world-altering truths I learned on my journey to self-acceptance was that our emotions are actually compasses, there to guide our behavior✨. They’re adaptive: for example, loneliness tells us to connect; guilt tells us we’ve done something that goes against our values, anxiety tells us to β€œwatch out” or prepare; depression tells us we're lacking meaning or connection or self-compassion; anger tells us we’ve been mistreated, a boundary has been crossed, or an injustice has occurred – and so on. Now, they're not always telling the truth, but discerning their validity starts with making space for them. .
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You see, most of us create suffering (shame and anxiety) on top of our pain by judging ourselves for feeling these uncomfortable emotions. Unable to sit with them, we numb or distract, starting and perpetuating unserving habits and never coming to understand what we truly need for contentment πŸ˜”. So on your journey to self-love, start by giving yourself permission to be exactly where you are; and instead of telling yourself to β€œChoose happiness” or that β€œThere are children starving in Africa,” make space for the feelz, say to yourself what you'd say to a friend or loved one having your experience, and consider your compass might be trying to guide you somewhere 😘. .
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#inthistogether #happiness #selflove

Um, HOLY πŸ’© and nice to meet the 4000+ (!!!) of you who started following me today after @melissa_hartwig's heart-exploding shoutout.
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I guess I should introduce myself? 😳
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I'm Megan, but you can call me "Meg" (we frens now 😎). I'm a therapist. I became one because I wanted to stop my own pain (classic, I know). You see, I battled depression, anxiety, and eating disorders for decades - before I learned how to love myself as much through my messes as I did through my successes.
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The shift didn't involve positive thinking or power poses, visualization or thought-stopping. It involved giving myself permission to be an imperfect human being - like everyone else. Effing revolutionary, right? 😜. Conceptually it sounds simple; experientially it's a little more complex.
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I know you've just met me, but trust me when I tell you this work is so, so worth it: Learning self-compassion legit saved my life. It allowed me: to recover from eating disorders and gain half my body weight (yet I feel better in my own skin now than I ever have); to be 31 and single and truly happy; to leave my golden-handcuffs job in Canada and pursue my precarious dream of "changing the world" in NYC (still working on it 😏); to date confidently, despite knowing it's a vulnerability minefield; to actually BE in the present moment; and perhaps most importantly, to be comfortable with my shadow-side 🌚, and life's inevitable uncertainties & difficult feelz.
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With me you'll learn that self-love isn't about achieving a fixed state of happiness; it's about surrendering to the facts that:
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β€’ a "fixed state" is actually an illusion (one we're sold through [social] media and the #diet industry)
β€’emotional discomfort is part of the universal human experience
β€’ shame (usually coupled with disconnection) is almost always the root of our addictions, unserving habits, and wars with ourselves
β€’ change paradoxically comes from accepting our flawed, erring selves
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So let's all learn, heal, grow, go after our dreams, and keep fumbling through this beautifully messy life together. I'm right here beside you. Oh and hey, THANK YOU for the follow. I'm really glad you're here πŸ’•.
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πŸ“·: @aimeeisaksonphoto

Today's article for @qz has maaaaaad engagement right now. Know what that means? πŸ€” There are hella lotta peeps out there feeling heartbroken or depressed, struggling to get shit done. .
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So if you're one of them (which I often am), first acknowledge you're neither alone nor broken πŸ’ž.Β Then consider implementing my tips for still making rent when in a shame-hole 😩: .
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β€’ Get out of your apartment - hit a coffee shop or coworking space despite your impulse to "work from bed."
β€’ Adjust your expectations for performance - you're functioning at low-capacity and will only make things worse by keeping expectations where they normally are. You can bump them back up when you're feeling less paralyzed πŸ‘ŠπŸ».
β€’ Creat accountability - make a work-date, and/or be specific about what you're going to (realistically!) get done. 'Dem SMART Goals, frens! β€’ Ramp up self-care & connect with others - these are so essential to healing and motivation. Do NOT forgo them bc they don't seem "productive."
β€’ Reach out to a therapist - we're cool .
β€’ Learn the language of self-compassion - self-criticism just makes things worse, I promise.
β€’ Find the gifts in your pain - past and present. Your neuroses are often derived from the same childhood shit that's made you amazing. .
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Follow the link in my bio to get the nitty-gritty and start yo' healing 😘 #inthistogether #entrepreneurship #lifehacks

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