❤️ Love is when ________. (Complete this)
Since the age of 15 I've been in 5 relationships, all long term. My parents showed me at a young age that good or bad, loyalty is everything. You try till you can't try anymore. When my mom passed, my dad took his own life when he decided life without her was not worth it. They had a very co-dependent love which was their version of love. Was it deep, yes. Was it healthy, no.
My first marriage was very abusive. I was married at 15 and almost lost my life several times. I stayed in this relationship because it was the first time I felt wanted or loved. I excused the abuse because the apology and make-ups, I felt, were sincere. I believed every, "I love you so much that's why I do that" and, "It won't happen again" simply because, as a human, I wanted to be loved and I wanted to believe people are not monsters.
My next relationship was a co-dependent one like my parents. There were things I needed from him and things he needed from me. We will both agree we were friends and never had love between us. We stayed together out of convince and it became very toxic. You can't build anything on convince and eventually, we both wanted more.
As I got older I had to figure out for myself what "love" really was and grab that. You have to find someone who perceives love as you do. Love is not about completing the other person. Be complete on your own and then find a mate who is also complete. Love won't try and change you into someone new. Love doesn't hurt, love doesn't need you to survive and love isn't convenient. Love between a couple is undeniable. You'll know it when you feel it. Once you find it, remember you'll need to always work on it, never taking it for granted, and you'll have good days and bad days. Figure out what love is to you and what your current relationship looks like now! Find someone who loves you and who you love equally. We all experience and perceive love differently find what feels good to you. ❤️ "Why do we close our eyes when we pray? When we cry? When we dream? Or when we kiss? Because we know that the most beautiful things in life are not seen, but felt by the heart.” -unknown