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Being busy is not the same as being productive. We try to keep ourselves in constant motion because it makes us feel better about ourselves- we want to be the person in the room who works longest, stays up latest, is spread the most thin. We brag to each other about how overworked we are, how taken for granted we are, how put upon. It's a badge of honor to not have taken a day off in months. .
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But busy isn't the same as productive, and you can't keep that pace up for very long. The quality of your contributions will suffer and you'll become resentful and beaten down. Give yourself the respect your body deserves- there's an ebb and flow. Just as summer gives way to fall and winter and the day gives way to the night, there's time for producing and time for growing. Needing to take a break isn't lazy or a sign of weakness, it's necessary. Remember you want to leave the legacy of a life time, not flash and then fade.

The only reason anyone words can hurt your feelings or upset you is if a part of you agrees with or believes them. Because if they didn't trigger something within yourself, some shame or fear or long buried insecurity, you likely wouldn't even notice. If someone says something that makes you feel stupid and your whole day is now ruined, that's a choice you made and has nothing to do with that that person said. You can choose to feel stupid, to feel victimized, to be mad at this person. Or you can realize that you're most likely misconstruing their intention behind the words, and that some part of you is constantly feeling or worried about being seen as stupid. They poked a wound maybe you don't even realize you had. .
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When you notice what your reactions are you can start to see where you still have unresolved issues, those dark little unhealed pockets of your heart. Rather than giving your power away, allowing external events and circumstances to control how you feel, take your freedom back. Reclaim your power, which lies in your ability to CHOOSE your response. Realize that it's not about what someone else says, its about what you hear.

There is a big difference between having problems and believing you ARE one. Between noticing if there's something wrong with your current path and believing that there's something wrong with you. Between wanting change and feeling broken.
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You aren't a broken toy that needs fixing. You aren't a problem that needs solving. You don't have to scramble to explain and justify your existence. Improve your life not because you hate yourself and need changing, but because you LOVE yourself and want only the best life possible. Not because you have to or else, but because you're inspired to.
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Where you are is okay. Necessary even, because it's what is shaping you into who you will become. Allow yourself to enjoy the process of change rather than feeling overwhelmed and panicked by it.

When you spend all your time and energy trying to gain everyone's approval, you actually block yourself from making deep and meaningful connections. How can people see you if you're wearing a mask? How can you become who you were meant to be if you don't even know who you are now? .
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Full blog and my personal story is up now on my blog! Link in bio ⬆️⬆️

Fate whispered in the warrior's ear, "You cannot withstand the storm."
The warrior whispered back, "I am the storm."

In a lot of studies, self-criticism has been linked to depression and limiting behaviors. Which means that it's a vicious cycle- the more you hate on yourself, the less motivated you are to do anything about it, which makes you feel like a worthless pile of lazy, which depresses you even more, which spurs decisions like "well I've already ruined my life so I might as well binge watch Netflix and eat myself into a coma." And so on and so forth.
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Especially on days like today, where you went ham the day before and are feeling like a bloated whale, too fat to even go to the gym, it's important to be mindful of that self criticism. The temptation is to want to go cardio for nine straight hours, to punish yourself, the spend the whole day painfully aware of feeling like a stuffed sausage in your clothes. .
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You can't get lean if you spend all your time wailing about how fat you are/feel. You can't see a solution if all your energy and attention is on feeling bad about the problem. Just pick up right where you left off. Move forward today like yesterday WASNT a black hole of eating. Don't waste time beating yourself up- what happened happened, and feeling bad about it doesn't change anything. What does change things is focusing your attention on how you WANT to feel, and moving towards those goals with eagerness for the future rather than fear of the past.

When you make your choices, are you running toward something or away from something? Are you doing things for what they will get you or to avoid something happening that you don't want? Are you going to the gym because you're afraid of getting fat or because you want to revel in the movement of your body? Run toward things instead of away. Create things rather than just taking preventative action. Grow.

I think it's a tragic state of affairs that we have come to care more about how we think other people might feel about us than about how we feel. Think about that for a second. You will make yourself miserable, put your own needs in hold, do things you don't want to do or stop yourself from doing things you do want to do, all for the sake of someone else's opinion of you. Which you aren't even assured of because humans are fickle and we change our minds at the drop of a hat- so maybe they tell you it's what they want but even after they still aren't happy with you.
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So even though you have to live in your own skin, live feeling bad about yourself, live unhappy about something- you will prefer that over the thought that just maybe someone might think a little less of you. But listen, I can almost guarantee that by the next day, they will have completely forgotten the whole thing, whether you did or didn't comply, because they have their own issues. So you just made yourself miserable for no reason. But then we do that so often that now it's a habit. Now we don't know any other way to live. Now it's normal to feel bad.
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It's not normal to feel bad! But you need to be WILLING to feel good. It gets to a point that when we start to feel good, it's so foreign and almost uncomfortable that we immediately shut it down- thus perpetuating the cycle. .
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Why would you rather live unhappily just in case someone doesn't like you instead of living happily? Because there will be people who don't like you whichever path you choose. May as well be so happy you don't notice.

There's more to life than counting carbohydrates. You have more to offer this world than being militant about what you eat to the point of obsession. Life is bigger than weighing and measuring your food. And here's the thing, it's impossible to be perfectly accurate about counting your macronutrients- if you go to five different websites for the nutrition content of a cup of rice, you will get five different answers. So how can you stay precise to the gram? You can't. .
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When I relaxed, when I stopped identifying my self worth with how many grams of carbohydrates I had that day. When I stopped letting numbers decide how I felt about myself. When I stopped agonizing about how strict and disciplined I was being, stopped believing that I'd be an out of control monster if I wasn't diligently following a meal plan, my body responded. These two pictures are the difference between being rabid about counting calories and weighing a certain amount and keeping my heart rate at a certain range during cardio, and following my instincts, listening to my body about what it needed, resting when I was tired and eating more carbs if I felt I needed them. .
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I'm not saying to become lackadaisical and stop trying, but I am saying to relax. Stop fighting your body and realize that you are on the same team. It knows what to do if you would stop trying to force and beat it into submission. Calories don't measure bloat or water retention or lethargy. A scale doesn't measure your worthiness as a human being nor do progress pictures indicate how much you have to offer the world.

Sometimes you feel as though you just want to take a flamethrower to everything and start all over. Our brains leap to the conclusion that it's our surrounding or our circumstances that are causing our discomfort, our stagnation, all our problems. It would be easier to just run away- move to a new city, switch careers, leave your relationship, get all new friends, never speak to your family again. .
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But it's not that you want independence from your family in order to be able to do what you want without guilt. It's that you want independence from your thoughts about it. You don't want to be free of a negative work environment as much as you want to be free of your thoughts and responses to it. Wherever you go you take yourself with you, and no one can MAKE you feel anything, you have a choice.
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It's not that you need new circumstances, it's just that you need to change your thoughts about them. I'm not saying that you should never leave or change; sometimes you really do need to get out of a bad living environment, or sometimes that friendship really has run its course. But you are the common denominator of your life experience, and you don't want independence from that experience, you want independence f on the negative thoughts and feelings you have regarding it. Change your inside and the outside will reflect that.
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Full post up on my blog! Link in bio.

What is it that you most want to change about yourself or your life? How long have you spend struggling with it, beating yourself up over it, using it as an excuse not to go places or do things, as an excuse not to enjoy your life because you aren't the "real you" yet?
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How much time and money have you spent trying this new fad or that new gimmick, buying that book or this e-course? Think about how much anguish you feel and have felt around your seemingly insurmountable problem. Think of what you'd give to live with a sense of freedom or ease around it, to have your life back. .
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But when it comes down to the nitty gritty, most of us won't take action on our own behalf. Maybe we're scared of failing yet again. Or maybe, and this is scary, maybe we are just so used to living in discomfort, so used to the agony that we can't even imagine a different life anymore..
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What's holding you back from true change? Is it that you actually and truly cannot change (newsflash, this is NEVER true), or is it that you are scared of who you would be if you weren't suffering? You don't know how to live if you weren't trying to fix the problem. Who would you be if you weren't stuck in your own misery?

All my friends are heathens, take it slow

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