When we feel unloveable, we search for love outside of ourselves. But the same need that pushes us to search keeps us from ever finding it. Have you ever been looking for something you lost, frantically scrambling from room to room, fully convinced you'll never see it again; and then when you finally give up and stop looking, you stumble across it somewhere you'd already looked several times? It's the same principle. When you are convinced of your unloveableness, you will never find love. You won't see what's already there. Because even if you do find love, you'll doubt it, test it, think it's fragile, feel you don't deserve it; the same ego that tells you to search for love also makes you run from it when you see it coming. .
Love isn't outside of you. You can't find it in another person, a job, an accomplishment. It's within you, AS you. Love isn't a noun to be earned, won, bought, or found. It's a state of being. You can't find love outside of yourself because you ARE love, and until you can see that, you can't see it anywhere.