When you hear my story, I don’t want you to feel bad for me.
I can’t speak for other women but for me, I want you to be proud and happy.
Proud and happy that we survived and now live a life with freedom, peace and love.
Most of us have lived under a constant threat. We have dodged sharp and hard objects thrown at us. We have dodged knifes and other weapons, or objects used as weapons. We’ve been kept captive in our own homes with no option to escape or call for help. Somedays we had to run really fast, maybe we managed to outrun our abuser but most of the time we didn’t. We’ve been tossed around, pushed, shoved, smacked, punched and kicked. Some of us have experienced death threats and attempts.
The point is, we survived.
There was one specific time I thought he had changed my life forever. He had kicked me to the ground so hard, straight into my spine, and I couldn’t pick myself back up. I remember how scared I was for not being able to feel my legs or move them.
But I healed. I healed and survived what ended up being years of weekly, almost daily torture.
If this happened to a person on the street by a stranger, there would be no silence. It would probably make the news. But when it happens in a home, by people who know each other, it’s silenced.
This is why the 911 calls the police get about domestic violence are one of the most dangerous calls they get. It’s the unexpected killer.
Since I posted my videos (cry vs no cry version) about my story (I was sneaky about it, closed fb group and my stories)- I’ve had women reaching out to me about being in the process of leaving or escaping their abusers. Sometimes all we need to know is that we are not alone. That what is happening behind closed doors isn’t just your reality, but so many others. Speaking about my own story have brought me together with not only other women sharing the experience, but also other women sharing the experience with the same abuser.
You are usually not the abusers first victim, and you will probably not be his last which is why it’s so important to speak up and report whenever possible.
But first, acknowledge how badass we are for surviving 🙃 link in bio.