Recently, @diycorporatemom wrote about the beauty of really following the child.
"But most of all, I've discovered it's a gift of beautiful freedom. Because she can move, she can choose, and because she can choose, she can move! In this captured moment, her choices were so so clear. I wonder if I had put her in a crib or a play yard that limited her choices, she would probably have no choice but to stand and walk sooner."
She is so on point. Pablo may be as what people like to say, "advanced" in some matters - rolling over early, crawling early, standing & climbing, etc. But to be honest, "advanced" is not what I'd like him to be - I'd like him to do what his inner drive is telling him to.
Some of you have read this before, but repeating it here: Pablo crawled before he sat! He wasn't sitting at 6 months old. He couldn't balance himself at all. He didn't show any signs of wanting to sit at 6 months. And then he learned to crawl, and that moment, it was so clear to me what following the child means: it means respecting his choices even if they're not the popular ones (most parenting guides I subscribe to talk about babies sitting at 6 months!). I was thinking, maybe he worked hard on crawling because he wanted to follow me whenever I walked away from him; something was driving him to learn it over other skills. Did it worry me when he wasn't showing signs that he wanted to sit? Other than he might choke when he ate, no. I respected his timeline and waited for him. And one day, he just surprised me that he was sitting upright!
Before I became a parent, I thought having an "advanced" child was the goal. But now that I'm a mom, I can honestly say that doesn't matter to me anymore. We all eventually get there. Some of you say he might be walking soon - but if he chooses not to even after he turns 1, that is more than fine with me. I don't need to put him in walkers to "speed up" the process. He has, after all, a lifetime to walk! He can make his choice - and I will leave it up to him. As a parent, I can now see how things and perspectives change a whole lot when you understand how much more important it is to respect your child.💛 PS: video is 6-mo-old Pablo