No matter how hard we try we can't avoid experiencing hurt, pain, grief, loss & heart break at some point in our lives. Once we have experienced these feelings we naturally fear being hurt again.
Sometimes we shut down & shut others out. We put up fortified emotional walls to protect ourselves. We thicken our skin & cover ourselves in a suit of armour ready to defend ourselves from any further hurt or suffering.
Unfortunately these defensive barriers that we believe keep us safe can also imprison us. Yes sure, they may keep out some of the bad but they will also keep out the good & prevent us from experiencing things like love, passion, joy & positive relationships.
Breaking down/ removing or lowering the walls that protect us can leave us feeling vulnerable, helpless, defenceless, exposed & with the fear of rejection. But keep in mind that in reality, most things will still play out the same way & we can't control or predict other people's behaviour, unfortunately we don't have that much power.
Having boundaries are healthy & necessary but not the ones that prevent you from having meaningful connections with others.
A ship is only safe at shore but that's not what ships are made for🏝🛳🌊❤️