This rose is by no means to celebrate women on #internationalwomensday. It’s merely an excuse to talk to — and about men.
It’s such a massive fraud to imagine that women’s rights is only a women’s issue. It’s tremendously deceitful to imply men are not harmed by the stereotypes of gender. But let’s talk about boys. About raising boys. About being mothers, and fathers to boys — and girls. Boys who learn from an early age to feel entitled to the time, space and body of women around them. Often through their mothers. Boys are praised, and thanked eternally if they contribute to chores of they house they live in, as if it was a plus, a favor, to clean and cook, not an actual necessary life skill. Boys who from a very young age are taught to be tough, hard, MEN, suppressed to hiding their emotions, growing to be emotionally immature and invasive, with fragile egos, suffering like hell in the meanwhile.
Here I am borrowing the words of the ever inspiring @chimamanda_adichie
“I would like today to ask that we begin to dream about and plan for a different world, a fairer world, a world of happier men and happier women who are truer to themselves. And this is how to start: we must raise our daughters differently. We must also raise our sons differently. We do a great disservice to boys on how we raise them; we stifle the humanity of boys. We define masculinity in a very narrow way, masculinity becomes this hard, small cage and we put boys inside the cage. We teach boys to be afraid of fear. We teach boys to be afraid of weakness, of vulnerability. We teach them to mask their true selves, because they have to be, in Nigerian speak, "hard man!"
Gender matters. Men and women experience the world differently. Gender colors the way we experience the world. But we can change that.
A #feminist is a man or a woman who says, "Yes, there's a problem with gender as it is today, and we must fix it. We must do better." “