A father and a son. Probably the most interesting relationships I’ve ever encountered, and much like you’d expect, it shapes everything you know as a man and what it means to be a guy. I look back at the last year and although most of it was spent in great anticipation, procrastination, as well as a good amount of worry of how I will do as a father, I feel like it ended with coming to Peace with just being myself, Dad version. .
What does that mean? It just means that we all try so hard to be something we think is right but probably the most “right” thing I know is just to be at peace with myself. If I’m trying to set an example for little Bohdan, or just trying to be the best I can be to set an example for him as to what it means to be a man, I think I just need to peacefully exist and show him where happiness really comes from. He had brought me this year the best Christmas gift I could ever dream of; a fresh start and a new opportunity to take what I know in life and create the perfect canvas for him to paint his beautiful existence. My favorite author put this concept better than anything I’ve ever heard: .
“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.” - Kahlil Gibran
Bohdan Atlas Palaniuk, you come from a stable bow and you will fly far.