Lately I’ve been reflecting on what it truly means to hate someone.
Why do we hate someone? Why are we even capable of feeling such emotions towards someone?
And is it really true that hatred is a reflection of ones relationship with themselves?
Yes and no I feel like. I’m not so sure I can even come up with an executive decision. 😅 I suppose it depends on the context of the situation.
I used to hate certain individuals when I was younger and looking back there was a common theme throughout- they either simply wronged me or I perceived them as a threat. There was a quote I read somewhere stating that someone who hates you either perceives you as a threat, they hate themselves, or they want to be you. And I would agree to a certain extent. Somewhere, deeply buried down I would agree that it comes down to something like that in many cases.
The older I’ve become I find it rare that I genuinely hate anyone. And let me tell you, I’ve had people do some fucked up things to me all across the spectrum of fucked up things. Yet still to this day there is not even a speck of hatred for them. I might despise for a while but still never hate. I do not even allow room for it. I’ve carried coals in the palms of my hands for too long in the past and I know how self sabotaging it can be. That’s where the question comes in regarding self love and it’s relation to being at peace with yourself and others.
Maybe hate and admiration are one in the same. It’s as if one cannot exist without the other. Similarly to how we cry from laughter. It’s a paradox. But somewhere along the way admiration gets mixed in with crippling self doubt and that’s where hatred is born. Sprinkle in a little fear of failure and that’s it. Fear of incompleteness.
The day I found myself incapable of carrying hatred for anyone was the day I realized I truly loved myself. It took decades and there was no way I would have discovered self-love any sooner. I had to experience what it was like to despise myself to know what it felt like on the other side. The day I felt genuinely happy for my peers accomplishments rather than envy like when I was a kid was how I knew. CAPTION CONTINUED IN COMMENTS BELOW👇🏼