"I feel like there are a lot of men who are over feminist allies, but if they are in the company of a female and they are talking about feminism, then they will over power what the female is saying. They would go like, “Feminism should be this and this and this,” and the female would just be trying to say something, but the guy will takeover - which I think is a very terrible thing to do. Men shouldn’t do that, because if you are an ally, as you claim you are, then you should give voice to the people who don’t have as much privilege as you do. You want to bring them up to the level and not have you be bringing them up to the level - if that makes sense. Like, you’re not supposed to be the saviour, you’re supposed to tone down your own privilege, and your own presence, because for some reason it’s considered to be more important.
You should validate and listen to experiences, and not stay detached just because you don’t want to have major opinions or you’re scared to be called a feminist. It’s not a bad word, be okay with being called a feminist, it’s a good word. It’s a good thing to be a feminist.
Why everyone should be a feminist? I think, if you don’t care about feminism, or if you say, “No, I don’t want to comment on this,” or, “I’m okay with this but I’m not a feminist,” then you’re kind of disregarding these experiences or feelings that so many people in society have. So just by saying you don’t want to talk about feminism, I feel like you’re invalidating a lot of experiences, and that’s very tragic. I think everyone should be a feminist because they should care about everyone in society.
Read about feminism and learn about it. Don’t disregard the movement because the word has been associated with so much anger and hate. Even if it’s associated with anger - so what if feminists are angry? We have the right to be angry. Society treats us in a terrible way. And if we’re angry, then listen to us! It’s not a bad emotion. It can be very productive and constructive. Just validate my experiences."
(Photograph by Minahil Zehra)