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Kim Foster  Writing and shooting at the intersection of food, family and fostercare. New York City girl living in Las Vegas, Nevada.

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Re-entry into first grade is tough. Particularly at a new school. He said no one likes him and no one eats lunch with him, although I suspect that's more the way he feels, not what actually is happening. Still, it's real to him. So it's real to us. The remedy is clear - no play dates, no after school activities. Just a lot of cuddles and books and baths and quiet and hanging out in a big cardboard box with your stuffies, eating string cheese, and watching dumb stuff on your iPad. Because...comfort. #comfort #family #love #thisisfostercare #fosterkids #fostercare #fosteradopt #adopt #adoption #love #school #backtoschool #adjustments #changes #boys #sons #son #boy #boyhood #motherhoodthroughinstagram #motherhood

Her coach sent me this last night with a message that she was proud of her. You don't get here without a lot of work and determination. Well-done, Edie. #contortion #acro #acrobatics #acrobat #circus #circuslife #love #girls #athlete

The morning after the sleepover: I love how they have this need to touch each other, lay all over each other, and be in physical contact all the time, whether they are laughing and being silly, or talking about something dead-serious: Girls rock so hard. #girlfriends #girls #love #framily #sleepover #besties

Sleepover Breakfast for two vegetarians (no meat) and a Muslim (no pork): egg and rice bowls. Broken Omelette with asiago cheese and caramelized onions, avocado, leftover jasmine rice, Sriracha and mayo as condiments. #boom #vegetarian #breakfast #brekkie #eatingtogether #love #homecooking #homecook #breakfastbowl #ricebowls #family #friends #girlfriends #sleepover

They both have iPads. They have mountain biking on mute on the TV. And Crowded House loud on the speakers filling the whole house. And either David has his hands on his legs or he has his feet on David's arm. And singing, there is very bad singing. Total connection. Total dude love. #thisisfostercare #fostercare #fosterkids #fosteradopt #adopt #adoption #fathersandsons #fathers #fatherhood #fatherhoodthroughinstagram #love #dudes #guys #boys #men

Dinner: stir-fried beef and peppers, stir-fried tofu and peppers, mixed greens salad tossed with croutons and a leftover white bean tapas dish, and jasmine rice. Something for the carnivores, the vegetarians, the carb-addicts and the salad-as-dinner-freaks. #chinesefood #dinner #eatingtogether #homecooking #gotitcovered #dinnerforallthepeople #love #family #kids #friends #framily

The baby gave Gus a French fry, in case he was hungry when he woke up. He's still sleeping with his tongue on the fry. #pugs #pugsofinstagram #bwahahaha #pugslovefries

This past weekend, our boy got to visit the only dad he knew before David. "Jay" is not his bio dad, he is the baby's bio dad, and although he is far from the perfect father, he did try to stand by our boy as best he could, and has always considered him his son. The baby is not so connected to Jay because she never lived with him and her mom. She was born into foster care. But our boy has memories of them and their sometimes loving, sometimes hard and ugly life together, before the years of foster care and transience. When he saw Jay he ran into his arms, and then Jay broke down in sobs and hugged me for bringing them for a visit. Our boy held my hand and Jay's hand while we walked around. We were all connected. His past, and his present and future. Jay has no rights to the kids and we have no obligation to keep this connection going, and sometimes he says things to our boy that make me cringe, or the things he says confuse him, and we end up having all kinds of long conversations about it to put it all into perspective. Sometimes I worry our boy will think Jay's street life is cool. That on his own, he might follow him there out of curiosity for his past. But I still think the connection is important. I still think foster and adopted kids need to have blanks filled in and questions answered. I believe they need to know they are loved by as many people as possible and to learn to be okay even when they are loved by folks with deep imperfections and their own wide-open, festering traumas. Mostly, David and I want our kids to grow up without giant, gaping, incapacitating holes in their hearts. That is the very least we can do for them. #thisisfostercare #fostercare #fosterkids #fosteradopt #love #family #adoption #bioparents #motherhood #motherhoodthroughinstagram #parenting #parenthood

This is the last of summer. School starts tomorrow. No more bouncing on the trampoline with your dude friends, all day, while spraying each other down with the hose. There is a new kind of excitement now. We are talking bento boxes and school supplies and new sneakers to break in. It's still over 100 degrees here every damned day, but we are moving into Fall anyway. Even the seasons cannot keep up with us. We are fierce and fast and we wait for nothing. #lasvegas #vegas #southernnevada #nevada #dudes #boys #dude #trampoline #friendship #friends #boyhood #childhood #motherhood #motherhoodthroughinstagram #keepmoving

Novels, plays, essays, poetry, and a 100-page masters thesis that I'm convinced no one read. All the things I've written and never published. I even kept all my rejection letters. (There are some doozies in there.) Writing these over all the years has been school. Each one helped get me here. And if I hang onto them, someday when I'm gone, the kids can get together, drink tequila, read all my embarrassing bullshit and laugh their asses off while lighting up one big-ass bonfire. #legacy #motherhood #motherhoodthroughinstagram #love #family #badwriting #anwriting #essay #essaywriting #writer #writing #novelist #bonfire #keepwriting

David is home, fresh off a plane from the #edinburghfringe. We ate panko-fried cod and arugula salad with a spicey aioli on the side. And we debriefed, and regained ourselves. Happy he is home. #eatingtogether #lunch #besthusbandever #love #family #backtogether #breathe

Two kinds of egg rolls. A spicy vegetable-curry (leftover from yesterday's samosas) and a tofu-vegetable. Sweet chili sauce for dipping. #weeknightappetizers #party #friends #love #eggrolls #eggrollsfordays #framily #eatingtogether

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