Parenting is so hard sometimes. We hit a wall recently with Charlie’s sleep (or lack thereof) and he was fighting sleep for 2, 3, even 4 hours after putting him to bed. And if that basic need of sleep isn’t met, then nothing else goes well. Tantrums get turned up to 11, every little thing turns in to a fight, power struggles abound as parent and child try to force their will. Ugh, it’s exhausting and these past few weeks have had me questioning my worth as a mother. 😔 But! In a moment of clarity, I realized I needed to make his room a soft, safe haven, free of distractions. Literally all distractions. Books moved to our room. No toys allowed, not a one. Closet has been locked. The light switch has been made completely Charlie proof. The only things in this room besides his bed now are a fan for noise and his projector for a night light. And I can’t even begin to tell you the difference it has made! Our boy is back. He is sleeping again and balance is restored. He still lies awake for a bit and calls us to come back in, but the fun distractions that he used to keep himself up are gone so now he has nothing to do but sleep when he is supposed to sleep.
I guess I’m just saying all this because as parents, sometimes we need to be reminded that the simplest answers are sometimes the best. And that it’s okay if your child makes you feel like a failure sometimes. And if they aren’t going to sleep for hours after bedtime, clean out their room! 😊 (Also, turning his pillow around to face the wall helps him too. I guess it makes him feel more cocooned.)