When does the term "breast is best" become irrelevant?! Breastfeeding is hard asf- from the moment my son was born I've had a shit time feeding him and he's been mix fed. My nips aren't big enough for him to latch onto without expressing for 10minutes and putting on a nipple shield first. I can't soothe him with breast when hes upset because he gets frustrated with my nipples if they haven't been stimulated.
The first 5 weeks of my sons life I spent in my room... alone....expressing because my supply hadn't fully come through due to a large amount of blood loss during birth.
I never got the chance to spend hours a day with him on my the breast getting the hang of it and instead became the milker and formula mixer. I had people telling me to eat more and drink more water when I was already forcing myself to eat so I didn't look or feel like a shit mother. And who tf drinks more than 4l a day?! I've spent money on herbal remedies , breast pumps, pump supplies and cookies to help build my supply- heck I even got to the point where my son was only on 2 formula feeds a day and the rest on breast thanks to the handy old nippleshields- my supply picked up tremendously to the point where I was constantly leaking- then my son started having issues with gas which was apparently caused by the use of the trusty nippleshileds- it has messed with my confidence as a mother so much that I am back to exclusively pumping and feeding formula- but the thing is... I don't have all day to sit here and pump.
My 9wo Son is more awake than asleep during the day and needs stimulation. During the hours he does sleep my time is spent cleaning, attempting to exercise, eating, sleeping, working and then expressing.
Breast feeding is hard, lonely and mentally draining. I'm on my final straw with it and if again I end up back at square one I'll quit it. I'd rather be a happy less stressed out mum than one that's stressed out frustrated.
My Son's health and my Mental health are far more important than a slogan that makes Mums who can't/don't/won't breastfeed feel like shit.