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Exam & Career Success Coaching  🔹Kam Taj 🎓 Cambridge Uni 🔥 Coach for Students & Young Professionals 📕8 Principles of Exam Domination 👇🏽 Get my FREE exams eBook ⬇️

CONCLUDING TALKS WITH BRUCE LEE QUOTES (and being applauded for it! 😂) Incredibly grateful to have had the opportunity to deliver a talk at Slaughter & May, one of the most prestigious law firms among the British ‘Magic Circle‘. —
My talk was titled Stress Management & Workplace Resilience. It covered:
- Optimising Our Stress Response
- ‘Surface’ Stress: Time & Task Awareness
- ‘Deep’ Stress: Self-Awareness
- Resilience Strategies for 7 Law-Specific Challenges

I’m so grateful for the enthusiasm of the group, the many thoughtful questions and discussion points that they brought up, and their graceful tolerance for tennis stories and quotes from martial artists!

Raising awareness about wellbeing and stress management is a vital component in helping a company to optimise its employee performance. Sadly, societal and cultural taboos make starting that conversation difficult...

The purpose of these talks is not just to empower attendees to optimise their own mental wellbeing and stress response, but to give them the tools to help their colleagues with similar challenges - and in doing so, beginning conversations which lead to actions that can create sustainable, positive change in their work environments. 😊🙏🏽
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MOTIVATION FOR THE WEEK AHEAD 🔥💪🏽 We've all given up before. Sometimes the mountain seems too steep. The finish line seems too far away. We're tired. We're afraid. We fall down...and it becomes easier to give up than to get up.

Don’t get me wrong - sometimes, when a goal isn't right for us and we decide to stop chasing it, we don't feel disappointed. In fact, we feel invigorated, aligned and ready to take action towards a new goal! That’s not giving up - that’s getting up and running in a different direction!

But when we give up on something we want because the climb to the peak looks too steep, and we have fears and doubts about whether we’ll reach the peak or not, we WILL feel disappointed. We’ll feel like we've failed ourselves...

Little by little, our confidence decreases. Giving up becomes an option for everything. It's a slippery slope, and when the going gets tough, we let ourselves slide down. Our confidence plummets with us. We don’t even believe the excuses we tell ourselves and others...

We've all been there before. So, make a promise to yourself that this time, you're NOT going to give up! You're NOT going to let yourself slide! You're NOT going to make any more excuses! You ARE going to get up when you fall!

You might reach your goal. You might not. But no matter what, you'll know you gave it everything. And your confidence will start to come back. You'll start to believe that you are capable of pushing yourself, that no mountain is too steep, no finish line too far. So this time, don't give up. Get up! Give it your all! 😊🙏🏽
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Why do we settle for INSTANT GRATIFICATION instead of pursuing LONG-TERM SATISFACTION? Why do we cheat on our diets two-weeks into our weight loss programme? Why do we binge-watch Netflix instead of studying or working? There are 3 common reasons...

1) We don’t have CLARITY about exactly what we want, so we don’t have a powerful vision that really motivates us.

2) We know what we want, but we don’t know what ACTIONS we need to take to get there; therefore we feel clueless about where to start and overwhelmed by the prospect of starting...

3) We know what we should be doing, but we don’t TRUST THE PROCESS. We don’t believe it will actually get us what we want. Maybe we’ve been dieting and exercising for a few weeks but still can’t notice a difference in the mirror. We begin to wonder if all our efforts are being wasted, and we come up with excuses to justify why we can’t succeed...

Whenever we encounter one of the above problems, we feel dissatisfied, uncertain and unhappy, and we’re more likely to fall victim to our instant gratification desires as we grasp at momentary happiness.

...which ultimately takes us FURTHER AWAY from our goals, and leaves us feeling angry and guilty after! Sadly, if we do this enough, we lose confidence in ourselves to pursue long-term goals, as we only remember times when we’ve succumbed to instant gratification...

How do we fix this? First, by taking some time to get clarity about what we want and the actions were going to take everyday to get there. Then, by doing those actions every single day.

And finally, by trusting the process, accepting that we won’t see results overnight, and knowing that even if we DON’T get the outcome we desire because of reasons out of our control, we’ll still have gained so much from the experience - knowledge about what doesn’t work, and the confidence that we can stick to our positive habits without giving up on them.

Best of all, doing actions everyday that take us closer to our long-term goals will become a form of satisfaction in themselves - and so, we won’t even NEED instant gratification to give us fleeting moments of happiness that leave us feeling worse after! 😊🙏🏽

When asked what we want in life, so many of us answer with, 'happiness'. But the truth is, happiness is not a state we attain and hold onto forever more. It's a momentary feeling that exists only in this present moment. It comes, and it goes...

When we live in the past, happiness becomes more difficult to attain in the present. We're either reminiscing on pleasant past memories, and in doing so making the present seem less pleasant in comparison. Or more commonly, we're carrying burdens, insecurities and demons from our past into this present moment...

When we observe others, we tend to compare. We create narratives as to how they're better than us, how we wish we were more like them. We focus on what we lack, and what we perceive others to have, instead of focusing on what WE have and deriving joy from that! When we compare to others, it creates dissatisfaction in this present moment, keeping us from happiness...

So, let's become more aware of when we do live in our past, or begin comparing ourselves to others. Let's become more diligent in catching ourselves in the act of doing these, and force ourselves to break out of the habit. And let's remind ourselves to return to the present moment and be grateful for the many blessings we have right now! Happiness awaits us when we do. 😊🙏🏽
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Albert Einstein once said that ‘if you can’t explain it to a 6 year old, then you don’t understand it yourself’👶🏽 It’s one thing to try and memorise or learn content for our own benefit, but explaining that content to someone who hasn’t come across it before requires us to understand that content to a much higher degree!

Why is this valuable to know? Once we’re able to explain the concepts we’ve learned in a simple and clear way (as if we’re explaining them to a 6-year old), we’ve reached a level of understanding that allows us to reproduce that knowledge in any occasion and apply it to different scenarios!

So, keep this in mind as you revise for exams or prepare for a presentation at work. Instead of constantly looking over the same set of notes, imagine explaining what you’re learning to an imaginary 6-year old sibling, cousin, or child...

Refine your explanation until you feel confident that it would make sense. Once you’re able to do this, you’ll have no trouble applying your knowledge about that topic in exams, or addressing questions about your presentation in meetings.

If you’ve tried this already, let me know how it went in the comments. And if you haven’t, try this method of understanding content at a deeper level and let me know how it goes! 😊🙏🏽
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We’ve all been there 😱Someone’s offered us ‘feedback’ or ‘constructive criticism’, and all we can think about is how we’re not good enough, we’ve embarrassed ourselves, we’ve failed...

Or someone has attacked us out of nowhere, criticising us and putting us down, and we feel ourselves getting angry, ashamed and humiliated...

Or maybe life is giving us feedback - that exam we messed up, the client presentation that went badly, the diet that isn’t working - and we feel confused, frustrated and disheartened...

Learning the art of taking feedback is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves, regardless of whether it comes in the form of valuable constructive criticism, blunt verbal attacks, or life’s harsh lessons...

So, when someone offers you feedback or constructive criticism with positive intentions, embrace it! Don’t be bitter towards them. Don’t be bitter towards yourself! Take the feedback in your stride, understand how it may be able to help you to become better, and apply it.

When someone verbally attacks you in a cold, brutal way - pause! Observe your emotions. Notice what you’re feeling. And calmly and confidently, ask the person what constructive, actionable suggestions they would like to give you. If they have none - ignore them without bitterness! Their verbal tirade is a reflection on them - not you! You have nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, and they’ve only made a fool of themselves...

Finally, when life is teaching you lessons - failures, setbacks, repeating same old harmful cycles - LISTEN! All of these are life’s way of telling us that what we’re currently doing isn’t working, and something needs to change. Heed life’s message, create a new strategy, and begin applying it with peace, purpose and power! 😊🙏🏽
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Life Lessons from Tennis! 🎾 When our EXPECTATIONS don’t match REALITY, we experience DISSATISFACTION. So often, it’s not the situation itself that we’re upset about. It’s what we think the situation SHOULD be. It’s our expectation of what reality SHOULD look like...

Here’s an example. I had a tennis fixture a few days ago. I went in with no expectations - I was simply going to honour the game, and adapt to external factors (the weather, my opponent) as best I could...

And I had a great start! I was hitting reasonably well, the wind wasn’t too strong, and my opponent had a slow start. I won the first set comfortably, 6-1.

But in the next set, I found myself 4-3 down (no breaks of serve though) and incredibly angry at myself! What had happened? Two things.

1) My EXPECTATIONS had changed. After winning the first set comfortably, I wanted to see if I could get a 6-0 win this set! I was better than my opponent, and I wanted to turn it up a notch!

2) REALITY had changed. The wind had increased, my opponent was playing better, and I’d tightened up because of the pressure of my own expectations!

Thankfully, as we changed ends, I took a moment to become fully AWARE of this. In weighing up my expectations against the reality of the situation, I was able to manage my expectations and focus on adapting to the ‘new’ reality. I didn’t lose another game, winning the second set 6-4 (and with it the match, yay!)

So, stay aware of your expectations and the reality of your situation - and be especially vigilant of small changes in either. By being able to recognise when our expectations deviate from reality, we can manage, accept and adapt, and in doing so prevent ourselves feeling needlessly angry, disappointed and unhappy. 😊🙏🏽
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THE 80-20 RULE : MAXIMAL GAIN FOR MINIMAL EFFORT. 💪🏽 Whether you're studying, writing a dissertation or doing a task in your day-to-day job, try to be aware of where exactly you need to focus your attention to maximise value added for the time you invest.

It takes discipline to execute this rule properly. You need to understand which strategies will help you add the most value for the least time and energy. You need to be diligent and have pride in your work to ensure that an adequate quality is produced...

But it’s fully worth it. Unproductive, non value-added work only exhausts you and wastes precious energy. Learning how to get the most out of your time will enable you to get great results while also leading a balanced lifestyle...

I learned about this rule whilst preparing for management consulting interviews during my Cambridge days. In applying it to my university work, I managed to attain 1st class honours in my undergraduate engineering degree, along with a Masters with Merit the following year, whilst maintaining an active social life and participating in the sports I loved.

If you want to learn more about how to apply it to your studies in particular, check out my free eBook (link in bio)! I wholeheartedly recommend that you experiment with the 80-20 rule and apply it to your own life. 😊🙏🏽
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MOTIVATION MONDAY! 🔥💪🏽In university, my housemate had an awesome poster with a scrawny, little kid wearing a mask. The caption was, 'when life gets tough, put your superhero mask on, and make things happen!' - I loved this empowering message!

Because in life, we have to be our OWN superhero. We can’t afford to be the VICTIMS of our own narrative. We can't DEPEND on anyone to rescue us or help us as we face our challenges. No matter how tough it gets, we have to be willing to grit our teeth, grab our superhero mask, and get to work!

So this coming week, no matter what challenge you're facing, struggle you're dealing with, or goal you're trying to achieve, be your own superhero! Put your superhero mask on, and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN! 😊🙏🏽
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Detachment is an incredibly healthy concept to apply within our lives, but very misunderstood in our society. Some people think that it's about not caring or being apathetic on an emotional level, or not having possessions on a physical level - but these definitions are far from the truth!

Detachment is more about realising that everything we possess is IMPERMANENT, whether it's money, clothes, cars, houses, people or feelings, and therefore we shouldn’t strive to grasp onto them...

By detaching ourselves from these, we are still fully able to enjoy them in the moment, and we won't suffer the grief and pain that comes when they are absent from our lives. We can hope that they don't become absent, but if they do, we accept that impermanence is simply a part of life.

Detachment is also about recognising that OUTCOMES aren’t always fully in our control. We can control some elements of them, but there may be aspects that we can’t. Therefore, instead of attaching our worth to an outcome we can’t control, we detach from the achievement of the outcome...

We hope, of course, that we’ll get the outcome we desire, especially if we give our all to the aspects we can control. But by remaining detached, we suffer less if we don’t achieve that outcome, and we’re able to learn from the experience and bounce back stronger and wiser.

So own whatever you wish. Feel with all your heart and soul. Chase your goals and outcomes with commitment and diligence. Be fully present and joyful in this moment. Be grateful for what you have...

...and recognise that there's no need to become dependent or attached to anything to the extent that you'll feel worse if it were to disappear, or if it were to not be achieved. Don’t attach your worth to outcomes not fully in your control. Don't let anything impermanent, be it feelings or possessions, own you! 😊🙏🏽
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3 reasons why other people try to CONTROL our lives and influence our decision making. We’ve ALL been exposed to people like this - whether from our family, friends, peers or random strangers!

1) Love 😍They love us and want the best for us, and think they know what that best entails! Their intention is good, but the idea is flawed - most people don’t know what’s best for themselves, let alone what is best for someone else who happens to be a completely different human being to them!

2) Fear 😱They fear the worst happening to us, because they care about us. Again, their intention is good, but the idea is flawed - often, they’re just projecting their OWN fears on us. This is harmful because we might not share their fears, but they’ll actually instil those same fears in us!

3) Dissatisfaction 😫 People become controlling and judgemental of others when they’re dissatisfied with their OWN lives. They try to grasp a semblance of control in other’s lives because they feel out of control of their own...

All forms of control are dangerous. Their attempts to influence us can feed the seed of doubt in our own mind which whispers how maybe we don’t know what we’re doing, maybe they do know what’s best for us...

So, knowing this, please don’t take their comments to heart, and don’t let them feed your doubts and fears!

Their actions are a reflection on them, their experiences and their struggle - not YOU and your unique journey - so, make a choice to block out their voice, let it pass you by, and trust that your own judgement and resources will lead you to where you want to be. 😊🙏🏽
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The warrior does not seek out war. But if the world throws war at them, their sword is sharpened. Their mind is honed. And their soul is steel.

Why? Because warriors don’t become strong in times of war - they cultivate their strength during times of peace. They choose to live their daily lives with discipline and self-love, so that when war comes, they are ready.

War is inevitable. Exam day. Sports fixtures. Work deadlines. Anxiety within oneself. Pressure from others. The death of a loved one...

The warrior knows war will come. So, the warrior prepares everyday. They study. They learn. They finish what they start. They exercise mind and body. They meditate. They reflect. They process their emotions. They confront their demons. They express gratitude.

So, don’t wait! Sharpen your sword. Hone your mind. Steel your soul. Every single day, take actions that strengthen you, such that when war comes, you smile peacefully and fearlessly as you brandish your blade, and confront combat with courage, determination and grace. 😊🗡💪🏽🙏🏽
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