It's so much easier being single.
Kinda. Sorta. Let me explain.
Something I experienced when I was an "independent single woman who didn't need no man" was that it was SO MUCH fucking easier to keep my shit together. All I had to worry about was me, myself and I. It was easy to balance myself, and my emotions and I had a sense of control over what experiences I wanted to be having. I loved it. I loved being able to be seen in all my glory, the best version of myself.
Behind the scenes I saw my mess but it was totally able to be handled... Or disregarded and suppressed. Whatever I felt like, but it didn't matter cause it was just me, and me. I thought I had it made. Self love down pat. Killin it.
Until I fell in love and chose to commit to a conscious relationship every day.
Choosing a relationship is the fast track to some serious spiritual growth. Having your reflection stare back at you as your partner 24/7 can be really fucking confronting. And having them SEE you, all of you, in all your forms. In your crazy ass jealous bitch mode, in your Kali, in your seductress, in your mess, in your sadness, and in your joy. In your pleasure, completely lost in bliss, and in your rage. It's not always easy having someone who's going to keep you accountable for your own growth 24/7 when you would rather run and hide. It's not easy having your blind spots pointed out. Cause you can't close your eyes to those parts of yourself anymore.
When love is present, everything that is not love arises to be healed. Repeat. WHEN LOVE IS PRESENT EVERYTHING THAT IS NOT LOVE ARISES TO BE HEALED. All our insecurities, our habits, our old belief systems that no longer serve us. Our shadows. And not only the uncomfortable stuff. Being in a conscious relationship means making an active effort to allow more joy, bliss, laughter and expansion than ever before. More love than our normal societal conditioning subconsciously allows us to receive. So it's a constant journey of self discovery. As humans our brains like to find solutions to "problems". Once they have been loved/solved/whatevs our brain automatically starts **continued in comments** #thethirdkateye