To me this describes how important it is for our actions to match what we say we desire. So often we say we want a great and thriving relationship, yet we're smashing down shots of tequila and banging random ass. It's harmless right? What you "truly" seek is seeking you.
This lesson hit hard in my life: when i was younger I remember saying i wanted a relationship... Yet almost every week i would hook up with the same girl... And we weren't "in" a relationship.
About two months into what i thought was a harmless and perceivably ideal situation...en route to finding the relationship I desired... A friend of mine said to me, "I have a girlfriend who isn't looking for a relationship but wants to hook up with a good guy... And i thought of you." Woah, Wait. "But i want a relationship", I replied... And she said, coulda fooled me. Your actions don't communicate that." And in that moment my reality hit me... I was who i was being. My life was represented by my choices... As were my true intentions. My spoken intentions didn't mean shit.
It's like saying i want to be sober while holding a beer. It doesn't work.
We attract who we are. I know that can seem confronting but let me put it this way... If we really want a deep and thriving relationship, we have to become the person that already has that relationship. We have to say no to the opportunities and people that aren't getting us to where we want to be. Our commitment to that goal is the work, it's what's required to get the type of life and love we crave. Our lives can change in a moment... And we have to be mindful of the moments we're giving away to people and things that don't serve our greatest goal and intention.