A few months ago, I heard that the average person will spent 5 years of their life on social media. This idea was appalling to me that I’d waste FIVE precious years on social media. A space that can do more harm than good for the ordinary persons mental and emotional wellbeing (depending on who you follow, of course). 5 years that I could otherwise spend improving upon myself and my quality of life instead of delving into social media, finding myself knee-deep in a friend of a friend of a friend’s profile - wishing I had their abs or their hair or their car or their [insert whatever materialistic bullshit that pulls me down]. Or envying some random crock-of-shit celebrity because they’re just so damn chic. I’d frequently find myself feeling stressed or irritated after binging on social media right before I went to sleep. After I heard the 5-year statistic, it was a huge eyeopener. I realized I had to step way the fuck back and focus more on my own wellbeing and my family rather than the lives of strangers who don’t improve my own. I know, I know… how can I have these thoughts ON social media? I promise I’m leaving in a minute. “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Comparing ourselves to others lives who are only “perfect” on your screen is quite a sad, waste of precious time and energy. If we want to change something in our lives for the better and feel joy in our own existence, we should start with the work within ourselves and remove any triggers that pull us into this dark space that’s so easily accessible. While this is easier said than done, I think where it would start is by first recognizing a desire for self-improvement and then finding the proper channels to facilitate your goals. Candidly speaking, that need existed so desperately within me. I want and need to be a better and healthier human being; a more in-tuned wife; and a calmer, kinder and less stressed mum. This is something that takes A LOT of time and focus and it’s time well invested rather than the 5 years wasted on social media.
I don’t expect anyone to agree with me or believe these things. I just wanted to share for once. 🖤
Xoxo – Jenny.