The secret to be a confident person:
I always had a hard time accepting myself. Just a few years ago I hated absolutely everything about my body! I was overweight, unhappy and I didn't know what to do.
I was at my limit. I thought it was all pointless. I had tried several diets and exercise and everything and I lost weight, but you see, the weight wasn't the problem. I was never the kind to sit around and wait for miracles. So I changed, I became someone who wasn't me, I changed the way I spoke, i changed my style, I changed everything and in the end, I only hated myself more.
You see, the problem was the way I looked at life. Everything was always so dark and negative. Even if something good was happening at the moment, I would sabotage myself and turn it into my worst nightmare. Because deep down, I had forgotten how to just be happy. All these thoughts in my head made me forget that I could and deserved to be happy.
I could just sit here and tell you: just be positive! But I know it's not that simple. It's hard to see the bright side sometimes, specially when you've lived in the shadows for so long.
So the secret to be a confident person is to believe in yourself. Let me ask you something, out of everything that has happened to you, how much of it have you survived? All of it. You had shit thrown at you and still, here you are. You are stronger than you think. Never doubt your strength 'cause that's the only time you'll be weak. The moment you realize that after all, you are a survivor, the world won't seem so scary.
Remember confidence isn't "they will like me". Its "I'll be fine if they dont" and you really will. Because you're a survivor.
So believe in yourself, believe in your strength and you'll see that all of a sudden, the world is not so black anymore. You got this! 💪