It took a lot of growth to understand that I did not have to be a perfect mother. I felt I had to overcompensate as a mom because Esme's dad and I didn't stay together. I felt I owed it to her make her feel as though she is not missing key developments from being in a dual household, and I felt like I had something to prove to the world. No mom is perfect, especially not me and the expectations set for mothers are unrealistic and rooted in patriarchy. I'm guilty of mom-shaming and I've been on the receiving end as well, but I hope I will grow as a mother and come to more of these profound realizations. Please understand that compassion is a powerful tool that can unite women against the obstacles they face. We expect so much from mothers that we fail to see their own needs also need to be met. A lot of mothers struggle in silence from mental health and other deep emotional pains, like not having their own mothers in their lives to serve as examples to them. To all mothers, to those who lost their mothers, to those mothers who aren't able to see their children because of incarceration, drug abuse, disability, YOU ARE APPRECIATED and loved. 💖I leave you with this dank meme and a video of me beating my child. Happy Mother's Day!