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Iga Daria Wyrwal  Happy mum to Olivier Dante. Model, actress. "Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions".


Imagine this scenario... As all married couples this couple took vows for better or worse , in sickness or health, etc.
After awhile they have a baby. It is going seemingly well. Couple months later wife starts feeling unwell, irritated, moody. Diagnosis- postpartum depression.
It might last 2 months or 2 years.
Husband is tired, you know working long hours to provide, looking after kids when he can, housework etc. He can feel the strain too.
They have some social events coming up-big birthdays, friends wedding anniversaries, etc.
Wife does not want to go because of her condition. She is even guilty at simple thought of asking husband to stay and help. Most of the time people with any depression feel guilty asking for help. They already feel like a burden and do not want pull a loved one away from something they would enjoy. But at the same time they feel extremely unwanted if left alone (tough to deal with these emotions).
Husband wants to go. He feels he needs a break, little me time. Rightly so - they both deserve little me time.
Wife is not asking for help but then again no guarantee she will feel better or worse when he is away. She and kids might need him.
What would you do?

In my opinion there are some who do not need these vows.
They are with you for better or worse, in health or sickness the minute they start thinking seriously about you.
They act like it when relationship is fresh or matured.
Sickness does not care about duration of relationship, your social plans, work, family. It comes unexpected. How you react and support person affected shows what you are made of.
If I was that husband in my story I'd stay.
Mainly because my conscience wouldn't let me go. Can't leave a loved one like that especially when there are kids around.
Friends are a great thing in your life and if they care about you enough they will understand and stay in your life.
Soulmates on the other hand are a hard thing to find.
You do not let them slip away and you do fight for them, with them.
By staying you show how much you do care and they will repay you millions times over.
And you can both enjoy yourself when the crisis is over. πŸ™ŒπŸ»πŸ™ŒπŸ»


Me & and my baby 😍😍
Such a proud moment for him.
He is so happy with his football trophy. He promised to look after it well. πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ
#proudmama #happychild

Made some plans for this weekend so no Jurassic Park for me tonight 😒
Instead Big Hero 6 for Olivier 😁
While I clean the house πŸ˜’πŸ˜‚

Some ASK for more responsibility when some SHY away from it.
Below you will find a message I received today regarding my recent struggles.
What I like about it the most is the initiative-means a lot to me.
A big Thank you to friends who offered help with Olivier- I will definitely take you up on that when I need to.
Now for that message-enjoy the read πŸ˜‚
Going to be upset if you don’t take job because of no childcare, waste money you need on childcare when there is a perfectly good option. There could be tears and everything lol.
You know that the only way something is going to happen to him is if I’m dead and that’s a condition I actively try to avoid. If you don’t know this then you havnt been paying attention lol
My weekends are free. I will give him one of my old phones , you and family and friends can call him anytime to check on him. Ill set up the house cams. Ill give you a spare key. Your brorher can be here . What ever you need to be ok with it.
It will be good for him because he will have lots of fun and be with someone he knows and trusts.
It will be good for me because I get to have some responsibility and get out and do stuff instead of sit and watch tv and pretend I'm working whilst playing games. He will be fine. He will be better than fine. He will be as happy as a pig in shit and as safe as safe can ever be.

My calendar says it is Jurassic Park movie night so it will be Jurassic Park movie night. Can't wait πŸ™ƒπŸ™‚πŸ™ƒ
Screening starts at 8pm 😁

This is soooo addictive 😍😍 #gameofthrones

Omg these two 😍😍
I was told not to get attached to characters but I just can't πŸ–€
Thinking about it this is a cool halloween dress idea or do Game of Thrones theme party πŸ™Š
That is if I feel well enough to attend large gatherings, loud music etc
I tend stay away from those if I feel normal but that's just my introvert traits. Just feels little bit overwhelming 😳😳
Right now it would be too much to handle. I try to be hopeful and maybe in few months time I will rock my Khal Drogo costume πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Watching Olivier play last week.
Felt quite bad as I didn't get out of the car (soo tired) but at least I was there.
He started his football course 12 weeks ago, he was getting better each week. Last few weeks seems he took step back but he still enjoys it.
This week is the last football session with trophy ceremony at the end.
He is super excited about that. Means so much to him πŸ–€

Me & my baby πŸ–€

I was bit upset yesterday. Olivier asked me why. So I told him (trying to preserve his childhood but sometimes just can't). He looked at me and said "Don't worry mummy, it will be alright". Kissed my forehead and gave me a big cuddle.
Clearly I am doing something good although sometimes it seems like I am failing. There are people out there trying to discredit me but I actually have something to show for myself so good luck with that πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
It is easy to be there for someone when it is convenient. It is also easy to turn your back on someone when it is not.
As a parent you put your needs and wants without hesitation and do the best you can (even when you feel you whole world is falling apart).
Olivier kind action shown me that my hard work paid off. I am capable of sticking to my commitment when it was fun, but also when it was hard. I didn't turn my head because road got to bumpy.
Bless his good heart πŸ–€

I recognise 2 types of people in this world.
1. Those who sit & wait to be asked to take action and/or play victim when s##t hits the fan.
2. Those who take initiative and are not afraid of failures, ready to do whatever it takes to succeed.
Your call, if you want to procrastinate or truly say you did everything you could. πŸ™ŒπŸ»πŸ™ŒπŸ»

Especially when you are told to go f**k yourself...
Oh well.. No one does me better than me! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ‘ŒπŸ»πŸ‘ŒπŸ»

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