Imagine this scenario... As all married couples this couple took vows for better or worse , in sickness or health, etc.
After awhile they have a baby. It is going seemingly well. Couple months later wife starts feeling unwell, irritated, moody. Diagnosis- postpartum depression.
It might last 2 months or 2 years.
Husband is tired, you know working long hours to provide, looking after kids when he can, housework etc. He can feel the strain too.
They have some social events coming up-big birthdays, friends wedding anniversaries, etc.
Wife does not want to go because of her condition. She is even guilty at simple thought of asking husband to stay and help. Most of the time people with any depression feel guilty asking for help. They already feel like a burden and do not want pull a loved one away from something they would enjoy. But at the same time they feel extremely unwanted if left alone (tough to deal with these emotions).
Husband wants to go. He feels he needs a break, little me time. Rightly so - they both deserve little me time.
Wife is not asking for help but then again no guarantee she will feel better or worse when he is away. She and kids might need him.
What would you do?
In my opinion there are some who do not need these vows.
They are with you for better or worse, in health or sickness the minute they start thinking seriously about you.
They act like it when relationship is fresh or matured.
Sickness does not care about duration of relationship, your social plans, work, family. It comes unexpected. How you react and support person affected shows what you are made of.
If I was that husband in my story I'd stay.
Mainly because my conscience wouldn't let me go. Can't leave a loved one like that especially when there are kids around.
Friends are a great thing in your life and if they care about you enough they will understand and stay in your life.
Soulmates on the other hand are a hard thing to find.
You do not let them slip away and you do fight for them, with them.
By staying you show how much you do care and they will repay you millions times over.
And you can both enjoy yourself when the crisis is over. 🙌🏻🙌🏻