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Melissa Wells 🇬🇧  #1 Bestselling Hay House Author x2 📚 Actress, Speaker @ted, @google Featured @forbesunder30 info@melwells.com DONATE TO LOMBOK EARTHQUAKE RELIEF ⤵️❤️

Now I’ve got your attention 😬 I want to address a question that gets asked *a lot* in my community. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And that is: “Can I love my body - AND want to change it at the same time?”🤔
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Controversial to what you might expect me to say, and also disagreeing with what many of the #Bopo community believe - I actually DO believe it is possible to hold both perspectives at once. It is really about the place that change comes from.
Do you desire to make upgrades to your lifestyle and physical body from a place of love and appreciation - or from a place of fear and lack because you hate what you have in the here and now?
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We can love our cars, but we would still appreciate if they had a lick of paint.
We can love our home, but still want to buy new furniture.
We can love our relationships - but there are always improvements that can be made.
By saying “if I’m to love my body, it means I can never be allowed to want to change it,” is actually keeping you in a prison. When really - you are free to do whatever you want. (And actually, whenever anyone asks a question regarding their body that starts with the words “Can I” ...The answer is always this: it’s your body. So, do whatever the hell you want with it.)
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If you want to change your body from a place of love rather than from a place of lack - the key is to focus on feeling good, raising your vibration, and focus on your wellbeing and vitality, rather than numbers. Ditch the numbers and the fad diets, but don’t ditch your health in the process. Loving your body is not just words - we must *show* our bodies how we are willing to love them too.
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What motivates me to look after my body is thinking of the big picture of my life and the role health plays. When I’m 40,50,60 I want to be healthy, fit and energised, to be able to play with my children and grandchildren, and pass down a great attitude towards food, health and bodies to them. 💪🏼 I also have goals for my body that are things that actually *mean* something to me like - climb a mountain, learn to horse ride, learn to skydive, be fit enough to be cast in an action movie.
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Love to hear your thoughts on this?

Already missing this one! ❤️
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How does it get any better than this for a ‘work life balance’ vacay?! 🤓💫 .
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An incredible 7 days in Porto with @joanagalvaodesign, getting to brainstorm and work on new creative ideas for the biz at her studio with her fab-u-lous team @gifdesignstudios and then hitting the beach or spa! 😍 Bringing big ideas to life, surrounded by lush scenery and getting to explore all the amazing restaurants, being taken to all the best spots Porto has to offer - having massages and spa days, and drinking port sangria by the River Douro, with the most nourishing and inspiring conversations.❤️🍷 Oh darlings....it has just been the dreamiest week. How does it get any better?! 🦋
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Joana and her team are the brains behind The Goddess Revolution book cover, and have also designed two websites for me over the years. This woman inspires me no end with her creativity, her vision and drive, but most of all her huge heart, generosity and kindness. ❤️
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More “work trips” to Porto are in order I think 🤣 Can’t wait for you guys to see what we’ve been conjuring up for 2019! Can anyone guess? 💫
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Can we talk about the highlight reel - from a new perspective? 🤔
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Ever since @iamrickwilliam told me something about Instagram, it’s helped me shift my relationship with social media.
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He told me that @instagram was first *started* by a group of photographers. So the intention behind this app, was actually - to share beautiful images and photography from around the world. I really have changed the way I see this app since knowing that.❤️
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I used to sometimes look at people posting amazing photos and let it negatively affect my day...
Why do they need to post such perfect pictures?
That can’t be their actual ‘real life’. (eye roll)
I just want to see REALITY on my feed.
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And while nowadays, I follow plenty of accounts that give it to me *really* real. Bopo, Insta vs reality bloggers etc. No filter, no nothing.... I also really enjoy following travel bloggers and talented photographers and film makers who share gorgeous content that makes me go “Wow!” 😍 (in the same way that I love movies that do the same)
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Instagram is a platform for unique expression and it’s up to us how creative we want to get - or whether we would prefer to use it as a way to document our lives in a more relatable way. (and both are amazing!)❤️
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So if you struggle with Instagram sometimes, I get it - and - I challenge you, when you stumble upon a beautiful feed and catch yourself eye rolling - to think to yourself...
Their Instagram is just this soul’s creative expression - perhaps their virtual art gallery - rather than their life scrapbook. This perspective shift has helped me to enjoy this app more, and I can definitely say that *the more my account grows, the more I’ve had to pay close attention to my relationship with this app and how I use it.*
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I’d love to open the conversation up on this as social media isn’t going anywhere, and how we use it and abuse it can really affect our health. I think the goal has to be to actually *enjoy* it instead of always be in caves of ‘compare and despair’. 🤷🏻‍♀️
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Has this offered a new perspective? Where do you stand on what you prefer to see and post on this app? 📸😘
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Happy Monday my loves! My favourite day of all 🤓❤️💪🏼
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Let’s get down to business shall we... 🤓 growing my own passion driven online biz, that I can run from anywhere with an internet connection, has created so much freedom in my life and been so empowering for me to build, and since I went full time and took it from “blog” to “actual legit business”, has totally changed the course of my life. I had no idea when I started it, what I was starting to be honest! 🤷🏻‍♀️ I was just following what lit me up...(which was health, teaching yoga, and sharing recipes on a Facebook page with about 12 followers...and 5 years later here we are!) 🙌🏼
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I have been wondering if sharing more biz stuff could be of service to you guys? 🤔
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I want to find out how many of my audience are entrepreneurs like me who have a business of their own they love! (Or maybe aspire to!) 🤓💻 I know it won’t be everyone but I’d love to get a rough idea! 😘
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If that’s you, comment on this post and ask me any question you like about running an online business or having a personal brand ❤️ I’d love to see what you want to know more of from me in this domain. 😘💁🏻‍♀️
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P.S. Speaking of entrepreneurship, I’m speaking on the panel at the @bossbabe.inc event in London in October! Anyone else going to be there? 😻🇬🇧
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I have been feeling so much more creatively inspired since I left London a week ago (can you tell? 😂)
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I have been brainstorming new projects, reading new books, writing more, sleeping in more, listening to new podcasts, shooting more photos (starting to get to grips with my new camera now!) 🤓📸, and generally just feeling soooooo much more inspired and energised! ❤️🤗 .
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New ideas have been flying in from the Universe left right and centre and hitting me every single day!! 💡🙏🏼💫 I am feeling so aligned and so excited to bring on Autumn/Winter of 2018. 💫
special shout outs to my beautiful friends @joanagalvaodesign @brypenney @loriharder @petakelly who have inspired me so much lately to rest, restore and get creative! (probably without even knowing it!) ❤️😘 I love you ladies so much and am grateful for the endless inspiration and support you give me! 🦋⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The message of this post is, do not underestimate the power of a well deserved rest - and a change of scenery! ❤️ Oh and a new creative hobby 🤓📸
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Pretending to be a princess since 1990...👸🏻❤️
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Stumbled upon this total palace in Porto and felt like royalty! 😍🏛
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When I was little (this is so embarassing 😂) I used to dress up as a princess (wait for it), collect princess things (now it gets weird), lay down like Sleeping Beauty or Snow White... and LITERALLY... JUST.....WAIT. 🤣😑🤦🏻‍♀️ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
That’s it, I am not even kidding - I would just lay still and wait for a Prince to come and kiss me to wake me up. (For some reason I didn’t get bored of this game 😂🤷🏻‍♀️) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
This was pretty much the theme for my entire love life as I entered into adulthood... waiting for someone to sweep me off my feet and rescue me! 🙄 .
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If I hadn’t gone on my own self love journey, I would never have realised that no one was coming - and it was MY job to rescue me! ❤️💪🏼 .
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If there is one thing Self Love has taught me it is this... YOU are “the one” here to save you. You get to be the hero instead of the damsel in distress. Let the Prince focus on saving himself and you do the same... this is the real fairytale of self love 💪🏼❤️🙏🏼😘 .
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#HappilyEverAfter #ASelfLoveFairytale

Thoughts from today...⁣(oh hey it’s me again 😂👋🏼)
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When we travel and get the opportunity to experience a new country...⁣
Life really is too short to not fully experience the tastes and flavours of what that culture has to offer us. ✈️🍴❤️⁣
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Life is too short to go to Portugal and not have a Pastéis de Nata...😋🇵🇹 ⁣
Or to go to Paris and not have a croissant, or try escargots! 🥐 (but maybe not together) 😂🐌🇫🇷 ⁣
Or go to Italy and not eatttaaa da spaghetti!! 🍝👌🏼🇮🇹 ⁣
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Or...go to Porto without having Port - or in my case in this photo, Port Sangria! (a new discovery I made this week, along with the Port wine tasting tour we did today (look how cultured I am guys) 🤣🍷⁣
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My point... I think it’s so darn fabulous to experience a new culture and “when in Rome” it. I personally feel so LUCKY to even just have that as an opportunity!
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I look back at times when I was (let’s be honest, pretty much all of 17-23) and I was soo focused on trying to control food + weight at any cost that I even went to the extreme of taking my scales, meals + blender with me on holiday in my suitcase. One word for that...grim!! 😰🙈
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Life is just too short not to make the most of every adventure you get the opportunity to take, on this planet while we have it. ⁣
Really we are just so freaking #blessed just for the ability to travel and experience other cultures - so many never get the chance to do so. ❤️🌎
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#WhenInRome

Did you ever wonder if your biggest struggles, your obstacles, your greatest frustrations in life
Could actually be the Universe’s doorway to your greatest growth? 💫.
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That what you punish yourself for most,
For going round and round in circles with,
Could actually be an opportunity to go deeper into the truth of who you are, and what you’re here for?
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Instead of judging yourself for not being further along...
Or for staying stuck in the same patterns for so long...
Or for not having enough discipline or will power to be better...
Stop and ask, what is this trying to show me?
About myself, about my beliefs, about my life?
And what am I pretending not to see?
What good is present here? (even if it is just 1% good and 99% not)
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Every obstacle in life provides a doorway for growth and transformation...
It is our job to find it 💫
If we are willing to invite it in, pay attention and learn from it...
We will find a window of opportunity to go deeper to heal, and choose a different story. ❤️
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Many will just scroll past this message and turn a blind eye..😔
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Mother Nature... look at her! She is so beautiful, so breathtaking, but so powerful, so chaotic and so unpredictable...🌎
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I interrupt this beautiful image of Mother Nature in all her glory, to remind you that in Lombok and the Gili Islands, she has destroyed and ripped apart thousands of family homes and livelihoods, with the death count now at 300 and rising. The earthquakes are the worst the country has seen in over a decade - and this is happening right now.😢
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What was once a beautiful paradise island in Indonesia (and a place I loved to visit) is now torn apart, with thousands of locals without food or water or clothes.
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Please go to the link in my bio to donate to the Lombok Earthquake Relief. Every dollar counts and a little goes a long way! Let’s join together in times of need to get them as much recovery supplies as possible. And please pray for Lombok every day that the worst of this is over for them. 🙏🏼
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The Lombok and Gili people are such kind and generous souls and many of them have lost everything. This really matters. 🌎❤️
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Sorry this isn’t the most inspiring or uplifting or positive post for you! But please - comment if you have donated and I will give your profile some love as a thank you! 😘😘😘 .
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📸 taken in stunning São Martinho de Porto 🌴
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#PrayForLombok #Lombok #GiliIslands #Indonesia #LombokEarthquakes

I was listening to a @tonyrobbins podcast this morning as I walked to get my coffee and custard tart 😋☕️🇵🇹 And what he said blew my mind so much I need to share with you guys...❤️
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. “The biggest addiction in our world is not to cocaine or heroin. It’s not to weed, it’s not to alcohol. It’s not to nicotine. It’s not to food....”
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“The biggest addiction we have is to our problems.” .
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!!! Mic Drop !!! 🎤🤯💥 .
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He continued... (and I am paraphrasing 🤓) .
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Not even one cell of our body right now is who we were 3 years ago... that person from our past is GONE. And yet - we tend to relive our problems and painful stories from years ago, playing them over and over in our mind, like we are still that person experiencing the pain. .
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We become addicted to our problems, to being a victim - because it makes us feel special or significant, and subconsciously we believe that having that problem is our only certain way of receiving love...
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We even find some kind of familiarity and comfort in our pain, even though we know it causes us pain. So we stay there. Because at least we KNOW we are in pain. .

Fascinating, us humans aren’t we..? 🤯
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If any of this resonates know that YOU, yes you, are worthy of love NOW - without needing a problem or to relive a painful story from your past in order to get it. ❤️
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What would it feel like to drop those stories from your past and build a new one for your life?
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Can you love yourself enough to let go and realise that your past does NOT define who YOU are now?
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Can you trust that you are worthy of love without needing to be in pain in order to win it? ❤️💫 .
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Who you are is enough - and realising that will set you free. 🙏🏼
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How’s this for a wild idea...💙
Instead of shaming people for their lifestyle choices
Telling them what they should do, be, post, eat, believe in, or look like in accordance to YOUR beliefs...
How about recognising that each human is on their own journey and nobody is “better” or more right than another...
Instead of needing to be right or needing to put others down to feel better about your choices
Let’s just love and accept everyone for where they are, even though it’s maybe not where WE are...💙
My beliefs change year after year as I grow and evolve and get to know myself and the world better...
I used to believe health was all about salads, tracking numbers and the treadmill
That a lower weight automatically meant better health
That anyone who wasn’t vegan was doing it “wrong” (and I had better tell them about it!) .
Now I believe in the importance of our mental health, emotional health, spiritual health AND physical health being in balance.
I believe true health is happiness, freedom and peace within oneself.
I believe things like travel, friends, conversations, self care and creativity are also aspects of one’s health.
I believe in honouring your body’s needs - and recognising that everybody’s needs are different and there is no one size fits all.
I believe in *being* the change I want to see instead of “pushing” the change onto others or trying to shame them in order to try and make me feel more right.
I believe we are all on our own miraculous journeys that unfold and evolve for us day by day.
Double tap if you agree. 💙🙏🏼 XO

I am a walking contradiction...🙋🏽‍♀️
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I meditate and journal on the regs 🧘🏽‍♀️📝
I also really enjoy a bouji beach club with spicy margaritas on tap 😏🍸🌶
I love decluttering and being minimalist and feeling “light” with little belongings...✨
I also still manage to accumulate “stuff” and spend money on things I do not need and may not ever wear...and love the odd designer piece..😏🤷🏽‍♀️👜👡
I regularly speak to God and know the power of connecting with a Higher Power 🙏🏼
I also really like connecting on Instagram and getting cool photos of myself out and about (and don’t judge myself for it) 📸
I love animals 🐷🐌🐯🐸🐬
I also feel better in myself and my body, when I include some animal products in my diet. (Note: this does not make me a bad person) 🐟🍳🍱🍣🧀
I use positive mantras and the law of attraction to make my dreams come to life...🔮
And I still have arguments with people, can swear like a sailor and get stuck in negative emotional spirals 🤦🏽‍♀️🤯
I lived make up free and barefoot for months wearing tie dye and mala beads in Bali. I believe our natural state is enough and we should love ourselves exactly as we are.🧚🏻‍♀️🏝🧘🏽‍♀️
I also love getting dolled up, doing my hair and make up, getting beauty treatments done and feeling glam... and I still love myself like that too! 💅🏽👠💋
Last one...
Me: reads personal dev and listens to inspiring podcasts 🤓📚🎧
Also me: still has a massive soft spot for 90’s Hip Hop and R’n’B...😎🎧
Sooooo...
I hope you relate to some of this...😆❤️
Us humans are a funny lot aren’t we... but... our contradictions are what makes us human. 🙋🏽‍♀️
We can’t put ourselves into perfectly labelled boxes - much as we try to! 📦 .
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So... can you accept, enjoy, and celebrate all of your different flavours of the human experience...?
Quit judging what you think is “right” 🦋
Don’t buy into the story that being “spiritual” needs to look a certain way or fit a stereotype...
Notice where you want to slap a label on yourself or more rules on your lifestyle to fit perfectly into a box of virtue or judgement 🚫
Being all of YOU is actually... groundbreakingly... enough!!
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Would love to hear some of your human AF contradictions if you would like to share 😘🙋🏽‍♀ xo

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