We have to talk about masculinity, how we raise boys, violence against women, mass shootings....Domestic violence is a major predictor of public violence.
Unsurprisingly, today's shooter in Virginia has a history of domestic violence.
Melissa Jeltsen sums it up: " In the past few years, many of the men who have committed heinous, unthinkable acts of violence against the public have had a history of abusing the women in their lives. Prior to unleashing their deranged violence onto the world, it appears they practiced it against the most vulnerable and accessible targets ― those living inside their homes." “We raise our boys with an acceptance that violence will be part of their behaviors (’boys will be boys’), while teaching them to repress all feelings except for anger (’boys don’t cry’), in a society which objectifies girls and women,” she explained. “While problematic in and of itself (’patriarchy hurts men too’), we see that abusers overwhelming come from abusive background, and thus only replicate patterns they have learned during their childhoods, patterns which, while criminal, are ultimately reinforced in a number of ways in a masculine culture of violence.” - Melissa Jeltson @huffpost #stayhuman #daringdiscussions #resist