Probably an unpopular opinion.
So lately I've been seeing a lot of discussion about a handful of black men who seem to have an issue with black women dating outside of their race. A specific (black male) individual has been going around calling black women/cosplayers who date white men bed wenches. Obviously this person needs to and is being called out on their prejudice and hateful speech. This isn't the first time I've heard a story about black men being hateful towards black women. But what doesn't set well with me is how these black women are responding to the hate. A lot of these geeky black cosplayers or women start the discussion that black men are turned off by the fact that they're geeky. It's become a generalization for black men that they are against black woman being geeky and dating outside of their race. Personally growing up I was told by everyone around me mainly white people that I spoke white or why do I act white instead of stereotypical. This is true but I can't say that black men were the main ones saying that to me. Everyone was guilty of this. I don't like the fact that these black woman feel the need to explain themselves. They should be able to date whoever they want without having to explain a damn thing. Not only are these women explaining themselves they feel the need to demonize black men to justify why they're dating white men instead. As if there are no black men out there that are a hundred percent supportive of geeky black women. We love who we love. I just hate the fact that black women are stereotyped a certain way but then black women generalize black men as all having the same opinion and I don't think that's right. Like black men and women don't have enough issues with being stereotyped/generalized as it is. This goes both ways. There's nothing wrong with you wanting to date a white person but don't try to justify it by pointing out specific flaws that you see in black men/women. I don't understand why there is this ongoing feud. It's ridiculous period and it needs to stop. What are your thoughts? I really would like to have this discussion because I'm very upset by it.