I want to talk about an emotion that gets so little play in our culture. It's the opposite of jealousy. Fortunately though, there is indeed a name for it, it is a thing: compersion. It's the feeling of joy you get when you see someone else feeling joy that has nothing to do with yourself. "Liking" someone's gushy IG or Facebook post and actually liking it. Seeing your toddler grow up, go to preschool and adore his teachers and feeling elated. Seeing your romantic partner find joy in another person, sexually or platonically, and feeling your heart pound with deep love. I used to feel so much jealousy on a day to day basis. Jealousy of successful women, jealousy in my relationships, etc. Somehow that feeling has literally upended itself and has been replaced with bliss. Perhaps it comes from a deeper self love, that allows for purer love of others. Perhaps becoming a mother, and knowing that this human that came from my body is still his own person, and embracing his autonomy, while also helping him learn and grow. Perhaps my husband Ryan has taught me how to love without crippling possession. Whatever it is, it feels really good. We should spend more time talking about and teaching compersion. Let's build each other up and set ourselves free.