Life will always check you. But fear is not the enemy, and the belief that it is will absolutely control your life. Perhaps we have to look at it differently, feel our fears, intimately, and use our fears to set us free.
Maybe that means running toward the things that scare you the most. For me, it's things like being in a relationship, teaching children, leading adults, giving up control...it's taking chances and bigger risks to outdo my perceived thoughts of the impossible. To live in such a way that my self-talk goes from "not for me" to "why not me?". The more I move toward fear, the less it controls, halts.
Turns out, this fear is neither good nor bad, it just is. Taking a good hard look into our lives, we can begin to tease apart the remote-effects of why we do things the way we do, and offer up how we can change the things and patterns that no longer grow us.
One of my biggest challenges was moving through old beliefs that I was not meant to live a life outside of generational patterns. I pursued an education and career path beyond what's been expected of me (I'm just a simple, pretty young gal from the valley, right?). I don't quit, and that sometimes scares the shit outta me. I feared my success, thought I had to play it small, be humble.
Lessening yourself for the comfort of others, though, is handing over your power; that is not humility.
Life will always check you, and it will require you to go into the unknown and get wildly uncomfortable. Try new ways to connect. Uncover new possibilities.
To humble yourself is to be in your power, recognizing every person in his/her own big-ness.
May we love and lift each other, loving up our fears.