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Taylor  Saved by grace and weights ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿผ Bikini Competitor Allmax ๐Ÿ’Š Clinical Mental Health Counseling ๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ› Redneck things make me happy ๐ŸŒพ๐Ÿ”ซ ๐Ÿ’ฅArmed Apparel๐Ÿ’ฅ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿผ

Distress tolerance
How do you respond when stressful situations arise?
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Do you respond objectively or highly emotional?
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One of the biggest criticisms I had when learning about cognitive behavioral therapy was that there were not some situations that were universally accepted as innately "bad" until one day I was listening to a podcast by Dr. David Burns and he told a story of an elderly man who got his car stuck on a train tracks and then hit by an oncoming train; which he almost didn't make it out of his car in time. As soon as his car was hit he looked at the man who pulled him from his car and said, "do you think I could sue?" ๐Ÿ˜‚
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It goes to show just because we can look at someone situation and think it's distressing, doesn't mean they do. Someone could take something really traumatic and reframe it to "wow I overcame that, I'm strong, I'm resilient" and they allow it to empower instead of cripple them. .
So the next time you're faced with a problem, I challenge you to look at how you can solve it instead of sitting in distress. The amount of time and energy you spend sitting in a constant state of distress destroys your current ability to grow. If the idea of this change in perspective seems great but too overwhelming, start with something small and challenge your current belief system!

Sunday scaries ain't got nothing on me.
Time to keep putting in that work my friends. ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿผ
@juan.wilson_
@squarejuan

Life is not all about me. .
The people in my life matter and are valued. .
It's about checking in with them if I haven't heard from them in a while, when they've expressed they're struggling or I get a feeling they are. It's not abandoning them when they need strength; it's truly listening to their hurt and not just spitting out solutions. And it means giving them the encouragement to reground themselves in their life when everything seems to be in a downward spiral. .
It takes two seconds to send a text and let someone know you're thinking of them, wish them a great day, or talk about a positive memory you have with them. .
I get it, life's hectic and we don't always take the time to say and do the things on our hearts. Even if you don't have "time to open that can of worms" simply letting someone know you're thinking of them and acknowledging them is enough. .
How did you feel when someone reached out to you recently? .
#youmatter

Be Intentional in how you communicate with other people. .
Say what you mean and leave out the "but". When the dreaded "but" is used it discredits what was said prior and translates to "forget what I just said, what I really mean is..." .
Speak ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ for๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ yourself ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ
Something bothering you? Express how you feel instead of making the focus of your emotion about someone else.
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I see this a lot in people who struggle with codependency. When asked how they felt/dealt/ or struggled usually within the first sentence or two it turns into "they, he, she, my kids" because they don't know how to talk about themselves without bringing up someone else, it's apart of their identity. .
No one forces you to feel a certain way without your permission. Owning your emotion can be empowering for those who struggle with it and kicks the blame talk to the curb. โœŒ๐Ÿผ
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๐Ÿ”Š8 weeks and 8 lbs ๐Ÿ”Š
I've learned my body loves carb cycling and when I listen and follow directions ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ .
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#tbt to the last minute trip I almost talked myself out of. .
Why? Because intense worry consumes me at times. Truth be told, anytime I'm asked to do something it is almost always accompanied by anxiousness, despite my hunger for adventure. Weird, huh? How can the two coexist? .
I always have to question myself, what is driving my worry? How valid is it? In this instance it was "will I be able to stick to my diet? I don't get in until late Sunday night, how am I going to get my meals packed? What about my beloved weekend workouts? What about the pre-licensure exam that needs studying for?" .
You catching my drift? Every factor involved I was responding to with a great deal of worry. For me, verbalizing my fears allowed me to take a lot power from them and gain control over them. I realized how silly it sounded for me to miss out on an opportunity with my pops all because I was worried about back tracking on my diet. I acknowledged the validity behind the worry surrounding my exam, it's a pretty big deal. Well, lucky for me I would have 6 hours in an airplane I could study. .
Problem solved and off I was, and man am I glad I did! There is something so breathtaking about standing in a place like this that personified just how big God is. Not that I questioned God's strength before, but it really showed me how narrow of a scope I was looking through! I felt like a mere spec of dust riding through the mountains and canyons, it's an experience I'll treasure forever! .
#travel #adventure #explore #wanderlust #arizona #phoenix

Just in case you had a ๐Ÿ’ฉ๐Ÿ’ฉ๐Ÿ’ฉ Monday ๐Ÿ˜‚
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Buck is obsessed with toilet paper, so you can imagine his triumphant victory when he discovered the mother lode. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
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#puppy #dog #dogsofinstagram #labsofinstagram #Labrador #funny #motivation #motivationmonday #thankful #mood #happymonday #furbaby #love #thegoodlife

As humans we seek out connection with one another, it's what our species was designed to do. .
In fact, Most human beings simply cannot tolerate being disengaged from others for any extended period of time.
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People who cannot connect through work, friendships, or family usually find other ways of bonding, as through illness, lawsuits or family feuds. .
Anything is preferable to that godforsaken sense of irrelevance and alienation.
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This is now being played out through people's social media. People have been disconnected and detached from their personal relationships that the only form of human connection they receive is through the internet. .

Constant bid for connections are being casted with each post as the gap in personal connection widens. Broadcasting problems to the world reinforces the schema that if something's wrong, people care. And if people care about my problems, I'm cared about and I matter.
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It doesn't matter who you are on social media, we all need human connection. When casting anything and everything to the world is how you receive validation people care I wonder, how's that working for you? .
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Van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). I'll even cite it ๐Ÿ™ƒ

Had a blast shooting the tavor bullpup today ๐Ÿ˜
Shout out to Jake at @c2tactical for hooking us up!
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Is this where it's appropriate to say "Catching flights, not feelings"? ๐Ÿ˜œ
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Our culture seems to be supporting this emotionless and detached movement right now.
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Stop being salty that someone doesn't like you or want to be with you. That's life. People are allowed to change what they want. Calm yourself.
I promise you life will go on with or without the presence of someone else in your life. .
LET YOURSELF CATCH FEELINGS. It really is ok! Don't give up on relationships just because one single person didn't want to be with you. .
Now, are you someone that finds yourself constantly saying, "I'm really done with men (or women) this time"? Well maybe it's time to have a look at your boundaries ๐Ÿ˜Ž

Recently I had the privilege of listening to #MeToo founder, Tarana Burke speak at my university. .
Tarana spoke on the many criticisms the movement has faced and even condemned by some. .
#MeToo movement was so much more than a place for women to share their stories of sexual violence. It brought to light just how much of a large scale issue sexual violence is in our country. .
Sexual violence is isolating by nature. By having this conversation take place allows for community healing to begin. There is action in the movement as healing begins once the trauma has been verbalized. Once the trauma has been acknowledged, the narrative shifts and shame is decreased and self care is increased. .

If 1 in 4 females and 1 in 6 males are sexually assaulted before the age of 18, that means there's a lot of adult survivors trying to heal. This movement exposes the cracks and even potholes in our systems, especially where we think our children and ourselves are safe. .
There is a lot of work to be done, and it starts with us having the conversation about how significant this problem is in our lives. It's time we listen so we know how to change.
#fillinginthegaps #changingthenarrative

Well it ain't no woman flesh and blood, it's that damned old rodeo. ๐Ÿ‚๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿ‚๐Ÿฎ
#pbr #pbrstl

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