I’ve posted this gem from @mindfulmft before but damn, it’s so good, it just needs another #repost because I’ve read many (MANY) things in this life but this just might be the most incredible, accurate, poignant, and beautiful of them all:
“Passing it on and on and on. Pattern after pattern...dynamic after dynamic...fear after fear...message after message.
It just keeps going from generation to generation if we don't stop...pull back...and take a look at ourselves. Take a look at our hurt...our pain...our tragedies. We have to learn ourselves. We have to understand the family system we were a part of. We have to understand the roles we had within that system, and how those roles either empower or keep us stuck now. We have to understand the messages (verbal or non) that were given to us growing up. About culture, religion, gender, tradition, education, sex, family, love, communication....etc. How did we know we were loved? Did we really? How was it demonstrated? Were we listened to? Was our voice honored? What narratives get repeated over and over again? Which ones keep us playing small?
Too often we just go along with the course. We keep aging without getting wiser...without gaining and growing along the way. Do not just live in your body as a hurt soul. Do not just mimic an adult life and go through the steps.
We are not broken. We just have stories. Stories that are waiting to be listened to and understood. Stories that will, with time, catapult us further. Pain is our information...our wounds and fears are our space for transformation. So don't just be a broken child living in an adult body. Learn your pieces and then transform. Create the change. Change the patterns. Be the person the next generation thanks for your commitment to self and relational growth." // #bebetter 🙏🏻✨💕