Yesterday Ben and I FaceTimed with our client from Qatar, which is in the middle east. We always have these initial FaceTime calls where we get to know our clients from the inside out . Our discussions can last over an hour! We want to know what is not working for them, and what they want to change in all aspects of their lives.
Yesterdays conversation hit a very special place in my heart as our client opened up and told us at a very early age she developed an eating disorder. She then opened up even more and told us how she’s currently suffering from severe anxiety. After digging deeper on this topic, she told us that her mom controls a lot of things in her life. At this point both her and i were crying. I told her I know the feeling all to well! I told her… we can try to do everything that our moms want us to do, but it will never be enough! They will still point out things in our lives that they want us to change, which puts continuos stress and anxiety on us, because who doesn’t want to make their mom happy?! The truth of the matter is, your mom is not you, and will never be you. Yes, its important to respect her, but the reality is, if all she does is tell you everything you need to change about yourself, before she says one positive thing to you, you need to keep her at a distance!
I lived for my mom until i was 34! When I moved to California, I said...I want to finally live for myself! It became extremely liberating!
At the end of the day all our parents want us to be is happy and safe.
As long as you are not harming yourself, or anyone else, you need to take control of your life or you will forever be trying to live for someone else.
Its like holding a bird in your hand and never letting go. 🐥
You are meant to be free! ❤️✨