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Dr. Rola Rabah, DDS  Oral & Maxillofacial Surgery Resident PGY2 (Now: 3rd year medical student) Medicine💉 Fashion👠 Lifestyle🍟 Join @AlFemmeShop 5 Week Study Strategy 🎬👇🏻

And just like that, family medicine clerkship is done and I have an entire weekend off to celebrate! ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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Family medicine was a really great rotation for so many reasons and I’ll share all my tips/tricks/dos/don’ts on Monday (because honestly I really need a medicine break right now). I’ll also continue writing chapters 3-4 of Chris and I’s story next week (I figured you guys need a break from all the engagement spam!) For now..IT’S FRIDAY! The best part: I get to enjoy this weekend with my sister Sarah who’s visiting from California for a short trip before she starts her second year of dental school at UCSF. We are going to take a spontaneous trip this weekend to Montreal I am SO excited because I’ve never been to Canada 🇨🇦! We’ll be there only for 2 days so it’s certainly a mini-getaway BUT I want to know what he MUST see and must eat of course! So my Canadian folks, where you at? Help a girl out and give me some recs! ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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🖤 Wearing: love these scrubs but I am definitely putting it all away this weekend <3// Follow me on the @liketoknow.it app to shop my look. Screenshot this picture to get outfit details sent you via email #friday #weekend #travel #canada #scrubs #medicalschool #school #shopmylook #liketkit *note: all opinions in this post are solely mine and based only on personal experience and research! http://liketk.it/2x02x

Today marks my 1 year anniversary on instagram and I get to celebrate that with more than 50 thousand of you! Wow. 50K. I am speechless (and you know that’s a hard thing for me to be, except of course I am still going to say a few things). ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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If someone would have told me 1 year ago I would be here today doing all of these things I honestly would have just laughed. I have cultivated an incredibly strong Instagram family and that just tells me one thing: we are unstoppable when we support each other. My blog has always been important to me but after seeing all the support, love and growth I’ve gotten in such a small amount of time I understand it’s a blog that is NEEDED in today’s world. We need more career-driven boss babes who are advocating for change, supporting other women and showcasing all of our achievements despite being told time and time again “you can’t do it.” We need minority representation. We are the new generation of “we CAN do it.” The new generation of “don’t put a label on me”. The new generation of “I am NOT only here because I am pretty.” I first started this blog because I wanted to bring a feminine touch to the otherwise masculine world or Oral & Maxillofacial Surgery. I wanted to show the world that you CAN be a great doctor AND get your nails done and put your favorite shade of matte pink lipstick and wear Chanel espadrilles and and and. That’s what many of my posts are about. Since, I have gotten hundreds of messages from females who are inspired by my feed. Truthfully, it’s YOU who inspires ME to fight the fight, keep going, hold my head up high. If it wasn’t for you, there’s no way I would still manage to blog, be in medical school, handle residency and juggle my social life. You give me life. The confidence you have given me is something I can never ever repay you. I always knew this but now I have the strength to scream it: being female doesn’t prevent you from being a skilled surgeon, it actually enhances your practice and according to recent research, it leads to better patient outcomes. Being a women is an asset, not a barrier.
Thank you for this year 🖤 #anniversary #womenempowerment #blog #50k

Chapter 2: Mr. Right ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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Noticed I mentioned waiting for “Mr. Right” and not “Mr. Perfect”. That was an intentional word choice. Because Mr. Perfect doesn’t exist and that took me a long time to come to terms with. Even more importantly, Mr. Right is different for everyone. That’s why I emphasized in my last few posts how important it is to focus on YOURSELF and love yourself because that’s what it takes to figure out who Mr. Right is for YOU. Not for your mom, or your sister, or your friend. Everyone needs someone different. And sometimes that means it’s someone who doesn’t check off all boxes that seem “right” by some standard arbitrary set for you. That guy would be Mr. “Seemingly-Right-But-Actually-Not.” And that’s the guy who traps you (maybe for years) because you think it’s the relationship that’s suppose to work out. But that’s not true. You shouldn’t settle for that guy.
The REAL Mr. Right is the one who checks off the boxes that are the most important for you. For me, he’s the one who supports my dreams and tells me I can do it regardless of how crazy it sounds. When everyone asks me how I’ll have children if I do surgery, he’s the one who tells me “I got a plan.” He’s the one who isn’t intimated by my ambitions. He’s the one who’s proud of my intelligence and boasts about my accomplishments. He’s the one who’s not afraid of loving a strong woman.
And honestly, his support, among that of my family and friends, is how I’ve been able to manage being in a committed relationship, the stress of residency, the sorrow of being away from family, extracurriculars and of course blogging. You have to have a strong support system to do it all and stay sane. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, not hold you back. That’s how #WeDoItAll. So thank you @dryazdan for including me in this campaign, it falls perfectly in my life chapter. And I am tagging so many others who #DoItAll. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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🖤 Wearing: the dress I didn’t even know would be my proposal dress <3// Follow me on the @liketoknow.it app to shop my look. http://liketk.it/2wXtK #liketkit #engaged #proposal

Chapter 1: The single life (continued) ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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It was only when I started developing that relationship with myself and forgetting all the things I was “suppose to do” by societal norms that I truly became comfortable in my own skin. I certainly don’t know everything but I do know this one thing for sure: your happiness can not depend on anyone else and if you are waiting for someone to come along and give you that, you’ll be disappointed. You have to love yourself before you can fully love anyone else and inevitably, that’ll lead to your happiness. But that doesn’t happen overnight. Especially when you’re someone who has passions and ambitions far beyond the norm. That’s something that you consciously work on till you’ve got it right and your solo dance is a natural act you’re proud of. That’s when you can start finding a dance partner. And it all comes full circle.

When you focus on you, that’s when things fall into place because your heart and soul are most at ease then. You stop searching for “the one”. Because you’re no longer in a hurry to fill a void.

Do you know what that means? It means there’s no timeline that you have to follow. I’d rather wait a lifetime to find the right person for me than settle for the wrong one. You’re on your OWN journey and the path you’re on may take months, it may take years. Don’t put pressure on yourself to check off those milestones by a certain age. Don’t settle to meet a “deadline”. Who cares if I am not married by 25? Kids by 28? Gasp. (Every Arab aunty just cried a little). But so what? I am not your average girl and I am not going to follow the average rules you set for me. Take that society! I am doing things on my own time. The one that works for me. And all of my dreams. Because I am not to be defined by a relationship, I am to be defined by what I choose and that’s every aspect of my life including my spiritual, academic, professional, social and romantic achievements. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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🖤 Wearing: “that dress” follow me on @liketoknow.it app @http://liketk.it/2wWqR #engaged #mystory #proposal #shesaidyes #liketkit

Chapter 1: The single life ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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I grew up alone. I was raised as the only child for almost 7 years. Now that we’re older, my sisters have become my best friends and I am so grateful for our relationship. But when I was younger, they were too young to be my friends. They were just my siblings. So I always had a best friend to accompany me, keep my secrets and share my adventures. Whether it was a boy or girl, friends or romantic, I always had a person.
That made me the relationship type. I valued companionship. But I also appreciated independence because I had to be that person for a long time. I never needed to be in a relationship, but I loved being in one. I enjoyed sharing my day with someone, planning dinners, celebrating occasions and getting to know each other. In fact, I got accustomed to that feeling. Sometimes, that was blinding. I often found myself trapped. And even though I wasn’t always satisfied intellectually, emotionally or mentally, I often chose companionship. For years, I would try to fit a square into a circle, even though I knew it didn’t make sense.
Until I realized that I was cutting myself short. I deserved more. Companionship shouldn’t be a chore, it should be a soul nourisher. And so for a while, I chose the single life. I chose me. I focused on finishing dental school, achieving my personal goals and pursuing my own dreams by choosing a residency that was going to be the best for ME and no one else. I focused on me. My future. That’s when I learned the most about myself. I realized it takes two to tango in any relationship, but if you want a smooth sequence, first, you have to learn how to dance on your own. So I danced alone for months. And I was truly happy. In a way, that’s also when I learned the most about the kind of partner I wanted. Mr. right. I was okay waiting for him. And when I least expected it, I met Chris. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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🖤 Wearing: the dress I didn’t even know would be my proposal dress <3// Follow me on the @liketoknow.it app to shop my look http://liketk.it/2wVKo #engaged #proposal #NYC #mystory #liketkit

Chapter 5: The proposal story (final part) ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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I looked up and there was the flatiron building. As grand as ever. But something was different. Our path ahead was clear. If you’ve ever walked through the city, you know the sidewalk is NEVER clear. Ever. Something was happening. And there it was, a heart made of roses. Right below the flatiron building.
I don’t know how it happened but as soon as we walked up to the roses and Chris led me inside: I forgot everything. The entire world went quiet, despite being surrounded by half of Manhattan, and it was just him and I in the moment. He started to speak and the first thing he said was “did you think I was going to do it anywhere else?” No. I guess I should have known, because you’ve always swept me off my feet, in the most thoughtful of ways, and of course you would do it again. I honestly can’t remember half the things you said to me, not because I wasn’t listening, but because my heart was pounding so loud I almost couldn’t hear. But I was lost in your eyes. And that smile that always melts my heart. And all I remember is you getting down in one knee, and I don’t even know if I said yes. But I know I did because the man behind you clapped and asked “what did she say?” And you screamed “YES!” (Pictured above). So I must have said yes. And boy did I mean it. And that beautiful ring 💍

And there was an uproar. The crowd went wild and that was the first time I even noticed the people around. Because all I saw was you. But there was so much applause. So many smiles. People love love. And I love us.
That’s when you pointed out my sister. And I couldn’t stop laughing. I was so happy. My sister was there sharing this moment with us. She set it up, cleared the path and watched. You involved her because you know me. And you know what makes me happy. And that’s why I knew I wanted to marry you ❤️ ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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🖤 Wearing: the dress I didn’t even know would be my proposal dress <3// Follow me on the @liketoknow.it app to shop my look http://liketk.it/2wUE0 #engaged #engagementring #proposal #NYC #manhattan #flatiron #liketkit

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I told my closest girlfriends how anxious I was and the consensus more or less was “Rola, stop being type A, let go, you don’t have to be in control of this situation so just savor the experience”. I gave up and listened. After all, they’re always my voice of reason when I am being neurotic.
Despite feeling ridiculously confused, I got dressed up Saturday night and just went with it. Chris said “it’s a romantic Italian restaurant” so I chose a feminine pink dress (which of course had some black in it, otherwise how will I ever be comfortable?) Chris didn’t wear a tie. This was definitely NOT the proposal. Chris is the formal type and if he was proposing, he would wear a tie.
At 5:30 pm on Saturday August 4th we got into an Uber and drove down 5th Avenue and I kept trying to figure out where we were headed. We got dropped off in front of a New American restaurant. I could see the flatiron in the distance. I am even more confused now because he said we’re having Italian. Chris casually said “oh, looks like we got dropped off in the wrong spot. We’ll have to walk a block.” Okay. That’s fine, I am in flats after all so I won’t freak out (at least for the moment). We started walking towards Madison Square Park and we talked about the new art installation in the area. I was really taking it all in because I haven’t been in this area in months and I just love it here. We kept walking. The route was strange. We were crossing the street in random spots even when it didn’t make sense..it was more like a zigzag. I was getting hot. This was definitely NOT the proposal but then I looked up and... ...To be continued (in what I promise will be the final part of the proposal story 💍). ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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🖤 Wearing: the dress I didn’t even know would be my proposal dress <3// Follow me on the @liketoknow.it app to shop my look. http://liketk.it/2wTPg #liketkit #engaged #bride #engagementring #proposal #travel #NYC #manhattan #flatiron #shesaidyes #fiance #dressup #proposalstory

Chapter 5: The proposal story ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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Okay here’s the truth: I knew it was coming. I didn’t know how, when exactly, or where it was going to happen but I knew that Chris had already gotten my family’s blessing. Did that make me less shocked? Less shaky? Less over the moon? Nope. It probably made me more anxious because I was on the edge of my seat.
So this part of the proposal is mostly about my sister. Apparently, the plan was developed months prior to the proposal. Chris and my sister organized everything. Chris wanted to propose in front of the flatiron because that was OUR spot. In a city filled with excitement, people and chaos that was our place of peace. But he needed to bring me back to that spot. Because of my busy schedule he knew it would be hard for me to come to NYC anytime soon. So he conspired with my sister who as you know started a new job in Manhattan. She told me she was having difficulty adjusting (which was weird because she loved the city) and that she needed me to come and spend the weekend with her because she was homesick. My sister needed me. So of course, I booked a last minute SHORT weekend to Manhattan. Chris said he’d make dinner plans on Saturday. But he didn’t tell me where (which was strange and I got suspicious). He said “dress up but don’t wear heels we may dine outside”. That was confusing. But I was definitely suspicious. That morning, I grabbed brunch with my sister. I knew she was hiding something but she wouldn’t spill. I asked her about dinner tonight and she finally said “if I were you, I would just make sure to look good everyday”. Omg. What? That means it’s NOT happening today. These people are going to drive me crazy. When is this proposal happening? And what is my sister up to?

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🖤 Wearing: the dress I didn’t even know would be my proposal dress <3// Follow me on the @liketoknow.it app to shop my look. Screenshot this picture to get outfit details sent you via email http://liketk.it/2wSU1 #engaged #bride #engagementring #proposal #travel #NYC #manhattan #flatiron #fiance #engagement #love #liketkit

So this just happened 💍 and I said YES! ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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Throughout this past year, I have shared so much with you (my insta family) and you have gotten to know me on many levels. You have truly become part of my support system and for that I am grateful. Although I tried my best to be transparent in most aspects of my life, I felt the need to keep my developing relationship private to allow it the chance to flourish into its own without any pressures. You have all been so supportive of everything that I’ve done so I decided I wanted to finally share this important moment of happiness with you. You don’t know this man yet, but you will. Just know, I am a lucky woman to have been swept off my feet this weekend in my favorite spot in Manhattan by the kindest, warmest and most loving man. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And to this man of mine: Thank you for loving me unconditionally, supporting me in every crazy thing I do, lifting me up when I fall and raising me higher every single day. I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you 🖤 ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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🖤 Wearing: the dress I didn’t even know would be my proposal dress <3// Follow me on the @liketoknow.it app to shop my look. Screenshot this picture to get outfit details sent you via email #engaged #bride #engagementring #proposal #engagement #proposalidea #travel #NYC #manhattan #shesaidyes #flatiron #whatiwore #ootd #dress #love #fiance #shopmylook #liketkit *note: all opinions in this post are solely mine and based only on personal experience and research! http://liketk.it/2wRsX

Walking around Lower East Side makes me feel so nostalgic. I just spotted 3 of my favorite small restaurants on one street. Boy do I love the hustle and bustle of this city! In fact, I am in SUCH a good mood this weekend I am even entertaining some color in my wardrobe 💜🧡❤️💛💚💙 ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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🖤 Wearing: obsessed with my super comfortable romper from @18styleboulevard <3// Follow me on the @liketoknow.it app to shop my look. Screenshot this picture to get outfit details sent you via email #saturday #weekend #getaway #travel #NYC #streetstyle #shopping #budget #affordablefashion #ootd #casuallook #shopmylook #effortlessstyle #casualchick #liketkit *note: all opinions in this post are solely mine and based only on personal experience and research!

My new favorite thing about Manhattan: my baby sister! ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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Nora moved to NYC in July and started working at a healthcare boutique bank (wait what..wow) as an investment banker. She is a BOSS lady in every sense but wait...that’s not all. Here’s a HUGE announcement: This little cookie also got accepted to HARVARD business school as part of the highly competitive 2+2 program. She is now going to work in the city for 2 years then coming to Boston for 2 years to get her MBA. She is so young and already so accomplished and that’s a result of years of HARD work. She is determined, ambitious and never ever gives up. No matter how large the task at hand is, she gets it done (and usually is ahead of time). That’s true dedication. Thank you to my little sister for teaching me SO much. I can’t wait to finally live in the same city after years of being apart (in other words, she’s basically going to steal my clothes 24/7 🙄). Wishing you endless success my dearest 😘 ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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🖤 Wearing: my romper is from @18styleboulevard And so so gorgeous #sisters #saturday #family #weekend #getaway #travel #NYC #shopping #sale #budget #affordablefashion #ootd #casuallook #shopmylook #effortlessstyle #casualchick *note: all opinions in this post are solely mine and based only on personal experience and research!

Twirling my way into the weekend because this girl is finally going out of town after weeks of being swamped with rotations 🙌🏼 ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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Many of you guessed it right. This weekend’s getaway ➡️ New York City! I love coming back to all my favorite corner coffee shops, restaurants and destinations. I definitely didn’t appreciate what this city has to offer even through 4 years of living here...it wasn’t until I moved away that I realized how incredible Manhattan really is. The lights, the people, the architecture, the food, the streets, the fashion (oh boy do I love the fashion) and of course the hustle, it really never gets old. Should I do a blog about NYC travel guide? Anyone planning a trip out here soon? ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀
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🖤 Wearing: this dress is still one of my favorites and comes in so many colors AND it’s under $90. Definitely a summer favorite from @nordstrom <3// Follow me on the @liketoknow.it app to shop my look. Screenshot this picture to get outfit details sent you via email #friday #weekend #getaway #travel #NYC #dress #allblackeverything #shopping #nordstrom #LTKunder100 #LTKshoecrush #ootd #casuallook #shopmylook #effortlessstyle #casualchick #liketkit *note: all opinions in this post are solely mine and based only on personal experience and research! http://liketk.it/2wPmc

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