There needs to be a book written on the 3 year old boy brain. While I don’t want IN that brain (ever, ever, ever) I need to know more about what triggers these “meltdowns.” I put that in quotes because it sounds adorable and slow, and not like the violent fits that we have experienced.
Tonight I was an hour late home from work, but otherwise things were great. Brian fed them a healthy dinner, followed by wrestle time/playtime, bath time, story time, done. But then, after all stories were told, Charlie had a hang nail and he called me up to fix it. I clipped it, but then he saw my longer thumbnail and begged for us to clip it. I could sense he was going to lose it so I said "sure, buddy, lets do it together." Of course, he wanted to do it alone and as he was about to clip off centimeters of flesh I rethought this parenting moment and said "hey, I need to help you, so you don’t cut me." He freaked out. Like started screaming. And then, when Brain came up and firmly told him to stop screaming, it sent him into a loop. He hid underneath the bed and screamed for 10 minutes. When we finally got him out we chatted through it and he said that he couldn’t stop himself from crying and that he loved us even when he was screaming. It was awful.
After all apologies were said and family hugs were squeezed he went to bed scared of bears coming into our house. I laid next to him for comfort (for both of us). To help distract him I said "ooh, I’m going to think about race cars that have bunnies as drivers - that could be such a fun dream. Do you want to think about that too?" He replied "Mama, please don’t tell me what to think. My brain tells me what to think." So much infancy and maturity in the same 1/2 hour. I need a drink. Or Ice Cream. But first a question for you all - who has witnessed their child “meltdown” to the point where you wanted to video it to show a professional? Have you ever asked yourself "is this normal??" GUILTY. 🙋♀️