I have days when I think “life is rad, I’m killing it “ . Some days I feel like I’m Strong, doing a good job, being a good friend, girlfriend and, I’ll convince myself that I’m doing this self-love thing really well. But then, doubts creep in, the negative voices tell me “ you need to work harder,” “ you’re not good enough”.
If you’re similar to me, once you start thinking this way, it can tend to snowball and manifest without you even realizing and your stuck in a negative downward spiral, all because you let a single thought manifest and not cut it off.
I read a good book once, called the Power Of Now. It teaches you to take time travelling out from your life. It explains how depression comes from focusing on the past and how anxiety is making up stories in the future. But “now’ is the only time you have. Stay in the present. So, when you get these thoughts. Label it, Future or past. After all, all we have is the present moment or “ Now” .
All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry - all forms of fear - are caused by too much future, and
not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms
of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.
Overcoming these negative thought patterns can be hard, but accept it, then act.Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.
So in this moment while I write this, I am in the present, I’m telling myself “ I am good enough “ I will not waste my energy on saying negative things to myself”
Negative thought patterns will hinder you, being kind to yourself will help you.