The number of people who have woken up from their social media slumber to type out this status on my Facebook home page is alarming. So many of us- sexually harassed, abused, used. It's catastrophic.
Many of us don't even know that our discomfort is valid because it's so prevalent. We don't think it's worth mentioning because it happens everywhere, all the time, to EVERYONE. SICK. But if you sit down to make a list- In retrospect, so many instances prove to be plain WRONG. An uncle giving you a kiss, a salesman in a popular clothing store peeking at your trial room, a stylist taking too many measurements, a boss dropping you home with a kiss goodbye, a feeler disguised as a friend, a head-pusher boyfriend, a drunken dance battle too close for comfort, a fellow passenger elbow rubbing your breasts, a way too "hands on" gym trainer, a teacher that gazes down your shirt and plants a hand on your knee, a colleague that sends you dick pics, a doctor with curious hands, an admirer from college that follows you home, a make up artist that never looks at your face, a frisky park friend, a rickshaw driver that fixes the rear view mirror and touches himself (this happened last month), a casting director that plays many roles, a leather clad biker that gropes you and bikes away, people who ask you to strip during Instagram live, a physiotherapist that touches everything but the problem, a date that invites himself home and wrecks you, a school bus friend that always wants to look under your skirt- THESE PEOPLE ARE THE SICK ONES.
I'm not one to play the victim. But nor am I one to take shit sitting down. As a generation, I hope what they say about us is true- empowered, aware and helpful. Gone are the ages that humans behaved like savages. There is more to us than hormones. Ladies, fellows, if anything, I hope knowing that you are not alone gives you some comfort- albeit an ironically tragic one. This is not a 'feminist issue'. It's a human rights one. If you've been through something similar, join the club. It's a sad one. But we understand. Do you want it to stop? Me too.