It is such a beautiful romantic ideal to love all out, isn't it? But yet, most of us don't. We sort of love at 87% while still holding on to the 13% to protect ourselves. We do what's required of us; doing nice things, giving gifts, having sex, raising kids. We cover our bases (sometimes not too).
How often do we actually love to our extremes? To the edge? From what I've seen in others, and have observed in myself, is that we usually get to a point of loving that we're familiar with... a space we've been before, and definitely past... but we don't allow ourselves to go past this point anymore (till we're conscious of it). We love in the comfort zone.
We'll find sneaky ways to limit our love... creating conflict where there is none, questioning our partners and how they're showing up... or even get lost in showing up as a partner, while never leaving room for or partner to show up for us.
We are masters at preventing being hurt. We don't go past this point of 87% because the last time we did, we lost ourselves. The last time we did, we got desecrated.... maybe from romantic love, maybe from childhood.
So, I ask you:
• In what ways do you limit your love?
• Do you pick partners who can't show up for you or are emotionally unavailable?
• Do you take the dominant, leadership role in the relationship... thereby never allowing your partner to be your equal?
• Are you someone who gives, and gives and gives? Always creating a gap in how you love vs how much people can love you?
We have so many tricks to protect the heart... start becoming mindful of yours. Begin to audit yourself and call yourself out on how you build walls. And you, along with me, let's raise our fucking game to 100%. It's time to show up. I'm in, are you? #createthelove