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Chance Craven  I create websites and logos • Started @goodstorymakers • Married to @allthingskatie and raising #ElijahColeman • How can I help you?

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Waffle House for dinner and silly faces with mom are the kind of things that make everyone happy.

When I'm explaining to Elijah that tomorrow will be my first day at the Fire Department and he asks if I want to "pack-tiss" before we go to bed... I get down on the floor with him and we practice.

One of the few things I have that belonged to the man I considered my grandfather, is his old shoe shine kit.
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I have no idea when he would have paid .39 for a can of polish, but it was long before SC Johnson acquired the company in 2010 and considering the same can cost $3.00 today... I'd imagine it was when I was still too young to understand the concept of polishing boots or having pride in something as simple as your shoes.
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My grandfather passed away July 31st 1997, when I was 12, and this kit hasn't been used for years before that because of his health . It's safe to say it's been more than 20 years.
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So, it's with both pride and honor that I'm using it tonight to polish my boots before my first day as a firefighter. -- The first day in the 32 years I've been alive that I have ever been excited about my first day at work.

Watching storms roll in while sitting on the back porch and listening to the rain hit the roof makes for a good night. That with the fact that Katie made tacos for dinner... #winning

Elijah kept sitting down every time we tried to take a photo today and I was frustrated that he wouldn't listen for the seven seconds that it'd take to actually get one.
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In this photo I'm trying to explain to him that it'll only take a few seconds and he needs to be obedient and do what he's told... And as soon as I stood back up, he sat back down.
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In these moments as a parent I feel like I have two options:
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1) Discipline my child for not listening and explain to him the consequences of being disobedient. -- More times than not, this is the way I feel and I want to spank him.
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2) Offer a positive outcome if he listens, like more candy or giving him something that he wants. -- I've always thought this concept was asinine and I wont negotiate with terrorist! He needs to do what he's told.
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Im not saying either way is right or wrong, but I wanted to share something I thought about today as we celebrated Easter and the meaning behind it for Christians. Still reading? Here it is...
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If Jesus disciplined me every time I was disobedient, I would stay in trouble. I mean, He'd always be whooping my butt in an attempt to teach me what's right and what I should be doing. It wouldn't be good.
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And not that Jesus rewards us for good behavior, but there are more examples of him teaching lessons through love and patience than righteous anger and discipline. Today is a great example of that.
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Jesus chose to die on a cross, to literally die, and rose from the grave so that we may have something that we would have never received on our own and that's better than anything we deserve. Rather than beating us down for everything we do wrong, He created the ultimate example of doing something for the sake of others.
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So instead of being quick to discipline my children, what would it look like if I loved them through their disobedience in a way that showed them right and wrong? What would rise from the grave if I allowed my anger in the moment to die, and focused more on the process and timing of them learning and being led? What if I treated parenting like God treated the Gospel, and I always focused on being the example instead of enforcing an idea? 👇🏼👇🏼

Egg hunting like a champ. -- Happy Easter, everyone!

My baby momma is beautiful! -- We had a great time in North Carolina today, celebrating Heather's birthday.

The beginning of a Good Friday.

About to do that thing where we randomly give $50 to someone on the street. -- If you're not following @goodstorymakers, go check it out.

Our Friday afternoon at the Barbershop was a success. Elijah loved it!

Sister: Hey. There is a tree in front of our house that fell across the road and som...
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Me: I'm on my way.
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A boy and his horse... I mean dog. -- we are enjoying every minute of today's weather. It's beautiful outside!

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