I spent a large portion of yesterday participating in an online discussion about a photograph a choreographer posted that I find inappropriate. It showed him naked sitting on his bed in his bedroom, goods covered but pubes showing. This choreographer is clearly very attractive, and knows it, and is very talented and successful. He’s probably a wonderfully nice man. But his clientele is also mostly children, and he is around my age, although he for sure fits in that “celebrity” category of LA choreographers.
In this day and age, it’s hard to figure out if you should say something or “mind your business” when it comes to the online world. It’s easy to get totally publicly outnumbered and that can be intimidating. Yet, I keep arriving at a loud conclusion: this phase of grown ass men teaching young girls and boys how to be sexy is so, so wack. And somehow, they open dance studios, monetize off social media, and book so much work by using a formula and being a menace to society.
Listen, if you know better, then you can also speak up about how to be better. And if even 2 or 3 people read your side of the argument and can get their hands on good information, then it may be worth it. This is what we mean when we say it’s an uphill battle, this perversion in the arts world. This idea that sex sells...it’s true, and it’s gross. Because sex selling means we create art for sex, a beautiful and respectful aspect of life meant for the mature to emotionally handle and not meant for children to navigate without guidance, and thus we create art to find salvation in the outside world telling us to be free, which is fundamentally not free at all — because if we were free, we wouldn’t need everyone to tell us we are. This is why I believe that with freedom comes so much responsibility.
When you have a platform to do big things, use it for a morally productive and courageous voice. Challenging a peer in your industry to think twice about the consequences of their actions is not about “minding your business”, it’s opening a conversation that may benefit someone other than yourself and your need to be free. YOUR FREEDOM DOES NOT COME AT THE EXPENSE OF THE NEXT GEN’S SAFETY.