In high school, my best friend looked at me one day, quite disgusted, and told me I was being a self-righteous jerk (I am paraphrasing)... ha. But the line she used cut like a knife. She started the sentence off with my name, looked me in the eye, put me in my place, and walked off. The thing is, it wasn’t mean-hearted. She was fed up, was being honest, and she was RIGHT. The fact that she was right hurt just as much as realizing how I had hurt her with whatever I said at the time.
I could kind of see it then. I knew she was right. But I wasn’t at a place in life where I knew how to attack what was going on inside me. At the time, I remember feeling protective of my opinion - holding some ideal on a pedestal. But my empathy was crap. And I relapsed so many times back into that habit of a judgmental mentality, after her pointed declaration... I didn’t always see it in myself.
20-some years later, I feel like only the last two years have only really started to tackle the root of that issue. I’ve told many of you before, but yoga has been an enormous catalyst in my walk with God, to figure out/unwork all the human attachments/issues our soul collects and connects to it, once it arrives here on Earth.
One reason I’ve found it difficult to post these past couple of years is that as soon as I make a statement, I almost immediately see the counter-argument or counter-perspective to the statement - like hyper-awareness of the contextual fabric of everything. On the other hand, I’m not a fan of wish-washy statements (for goodness sake, say something with meaning, substance, genuiness!!!)... 😐😑😐🤯 .
...So, despite a pretty decent case of brain divergence, I’ve veered pretty sharply down the path of empathy. It feels like every post should be a conversation, not a statement; I want to deliver the context, and perceive your context. Because ultimately, I feel like if we could all just see and genuinely appreciate the context surrounding one another’s actions/reactions, we’d be able to love a lot more deeply. We’d get it. This place would be (closer to) Utopia.
Happy Friday guys. 💜🙏